One of the biggest lessons Ive learned throughout my dating life is to not judge all on the actions of one. Merely because that one daughter burned you doesnt mean every girl will do the same; only because that one guy cheated on you doesnt mean every guy you meet is expected to be do the same.
Unless there was a pattern behavior by those who have wronged you in the same way that is being exhibited by the person you are currently talking to or watching, there should be no reason why you dont give him or her the benefit of the doubt when you are intellect starts to stray .
Then there are times when you are more than within your right to topic a given situation. Case in phase: Whenever you ask someone what their schedule looks like and they say something of the implications of, I dont like planning ahead.
People who say they dont like scheming ahead are actually just trying to say, Id instead not set anything in stone in case something better comes along, but I dont want to tell you that. There may be a puddle of knowledge I have about women and oceans of information that Im utterly clueless about, but one thing Ive learned is that if a woman wants to see you, she will make it happen. Going from an average guy, its safe to say that its the same for the vast majority of men.
I cant ever recall one of my friends male or female gushing( yes, men gush) about this incredible person they met, and then following with, Eh, Ill see them again when I watch them. Spontaneity is a wonderful thing, and its something we should all embrace at one time or another, but you can still be spontaneous and capable( or at least willing) to commit to any kind of defined schemes. Theres no reason why spontaneity and organization have to be mutually exclusive .
Whats wrong with attaining schemes on Monday for Saturday, then devoting the person or persons a call on Thursday and saying, Hey, I know were on for dinner Saturday, but are you up for a drink tonight?
If the coming week doesnt work for you, you can always plan for next week. There is nothing incorrect with having a busy schedule and asking, How does next Friday work? But theres a stark discrepancies between being busy and making an effort and simply not devoting a shit to even try and stimulate something happen.
Commitment is a choice. People know exactly where their own priorities rank, and if they find it too inconvenient to plan a night out with you, it should be a glaring indicator as to how far down of a priority they see you.
Its a telling sign when that daughter who says she doesnt like planning ahead doesnt forget that bachelorette party or night out in the city with her girls, or when that guy who says he doesnt like planning ahead doesnt forget that trip-up to Atlantic City or the Giants game with his boys.
When you build schemes with person, it conveys a level of interest to them. It tells, Im choosing to expend this night with you over everything else that I could be doing. When you tell them that you dont like planning ahead, it sends the message that they are nothing but an option or an occasional thought to you. It says, Well do something together if I feel like it and only when its convenient for me.
You dont deserve someone who cannot be bothered to dedicate one night of their week to you ahead of period. You deserve someone who circles your date on the calendar and is actually looking forward to seeing you again .
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