Narcissism can simply be defined as exaggerated feelings of self-importance. People who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder have a constant need for external validation, appreciation and power. Theyre more concerned about themselves than anyone else. Its been said that the word originated from Greek mythology, when youngfell in love with his own reflection in a pool.
Its easy to be attracted to narcissistic people because they tend to have big and bold personalities and they know how to grab your attention and fool you into thinking “peoples lives” are so interesting and adventurous that you need to be part of it.
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They have a false sense of entitlement and importance.
Which makes them believe that the world revolves around them and if youre not always available or if you’re not always trying to please them, theyll dismiss you or suddenly turn from sweet to sour. They’ll let you know that they have plenty of people trying to talk to them, so you can either maintain chasing them or ask for their forgiveness because that builds them feel and thats all they am worried about. They want to know that theyre more important than you, that you care more about them than they care about you.
They absence empathy.
They dont try to see things from your point of view or consider your feelings when they make a decision or say something that could be really hurtful. As long as theyre happy, your needs will always be subsided. They dont think of what could potentially hurt you and even if they do, theyll still do it anyway because its going to please them.
They don’t want love, they want attention.
They dont really care about falling in love or commitment or intimacy, they like the chase, they like the attention, they like the validation they get when theyre admired or complimented. Thats why their relationships are all short-lived , not serious or one-sided because theyre not looking for anything deep. They just want the reassurance that they can get anyone they want.
They handle communication poorly.
Trying to get your point across or disagree with them will result in a full-blown fight because theyll either become very aggressive or turn the table and make it seem like its your flaw, that youre the sensitive one or youre the delusional one. Youll never be able to make them admit their missteps. They’re neverever. If the communication is not initiated by them and if the conversation is not something they want to talk about, theyll shut you out and won’t even hear you.
Theyll find a way to leave you before you leave them.
Or merely end things so they can feel like its their decision and take pride in being all those people who aimed it. The ones who rejected you. Repudiating people attains them feel better about themselves because it devotes them a false sense of power, shows that they have options and theyre too good for anyone.
Theyll attain you feel lonely.
Because they dont know how to live with someone or even love person, theyll always be too self-absorbed to give you half of what youre dedicating them. Theyre more interested in taking and receiving. They expect you to be the one compromising, making all the effort and changing your life to accommodate theirs. Narcissistic people will build you feel misunderstood, dumb, foolish, clingy, crazy, needy and invisible.
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