I lately moved to a new city, about a month ago now. I’ve never lived in a city before and I don’t really know anyone here. I’ve made a couple friends since I’ve been here but constructing friends in the adult world is much, much harder than building friends in say high school or college. The’ real world’ is different, in school you’re surrounded by people with similar interests as you in your major or on your athletics squad or people you gratify out at the bar. It’s easier to make friends when you’re in an environment like that but it’s harder to make friends in a new city where you don’t know anyone’s background.
How does a girl make friends in the adult world?
To be honest, I don’t totally know. I’m still figuring that part out.
But what I have learned is that trying to make friends in the adult world is truly just like dating, and mostly filled with having girl crushes.
It doesn’t happen with every girl but every now and then I see a girl who I instantly guess, I think about going up to her, but then thinking that might be weird. I guess, But I look at her and I’m like. We could sit down and watch Netflix while feeing ice cream and having long dialogues about life. Or maybe we could go to the mountains, take a little hike on a Sunday morning and get brunch after.
The potentials are endless.
It’s just like a normal crush but with girl friends.
I can’t help but want to know her, where she came from, what thoughts run through her head. She just seems so cool, she seems like someone I would get along with and the feeling of going out to get a beverage with a girl crush is nerve-wracking and arousing. It’s a wonder of where the possibility will result us. It’s questioning what will come of get a beverage but with so much pressure.The questions are unlimited.
But you have to play it cool, that’s what I tell myself.
Because dating potential friends is a lot more stressful than dating men. Human are simple beings. They don’t need much, just someone who seems interesting to them and doesn’t appear totally insane from the start, but pleasing women? That’s harder. Finding that connection seems much more difficult.
You want a person who had constructs you up and constructs you feel good about yourself. You want someone who is standing there telling ” hell yes, run girl !” You want a kick ass friendship, someone who is going to be there for you when you want to get drunk on the weekend or who wants to be there to watch the Bachelor with you on Monday.
Sometimes you just have to go up to her and take the risk. Start a dialogue, ask how her day is run or whatever comes to mind. Introduce yourself, ask her some basic filler questions, laugh a little and then ask her for her number or to hang out. It might feel weird, even a little tricky but hey, you do what you got to do sometimes and “youve never” know where it’s going to lead you.
You merely have to hope for the best but don’t get discouraged if it doesn’t work out. There will always be another daughter crush.
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