Expectations are dandelions. Just one or two seem harmless even pretty. And we learn from a young age to pick them, leaving their roots deep in the clay beneath, and to blow our big wants into our little hands. And then they spread.
Humans expecting something in return for anything, and everything, they put into the world. Especially when it comes to relationships. These are dandelions. And Im looking around in all the yards around me to blankets of yellow petals weeds disguised as flowers.
You see it every day, the small intricacies others do or say about each other that connote, in the simplest and unnoticed styles, that they own or belong to each other.
When I insure the words Im so thankful that youre mine, the only ones I can think of are Holly Golightly saying, people dont belong to people. They dont. You cannot own a human being. And they do not owe you anything.
But you think that they do. Particularly so if you give your heart to them. You expect them to give you something in return for that.
The words I love you, in a romantic sense are usually said for selfish reasons: to hear it back; only to say it, so you know you said it, if anything happens, for your own personal piece of mind; but mostly, to hear it back.
All the broken-hearted ballads and verse of unrequited love, and lost love, and simply a general I deserve you, why dont you love me back simply because I love you. These are dandelions.
Stop loving only to feel love. This is not love. But your lawn is filled with dandelions, and theyve told you that it is.
Love whole humans just to love them.
And dont asking questions to love you in return.
Leave the dandelions alone to take over someone elses life, though I know theyre going to be tempting. I know you will see everyone else, with wishings in their hands, spreading the seeds that will ultimately destroy anything healthy they could possibly have.
But leave them be.
Lay some stable concrete down beneath your feet. Ask only one person to love you every single day: yourself.
Some you love may not love you in return.
Some may take advantage of the love you produce and you may still rescinded it at any time.
But maintain loving them. Without expectation.
And when if they love you or if they dont: youve laid down by your own foundation a slab of self-fulfillment, security, and stability without a blanket of weeds.
And, my dear, you will be just fine.
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