1. Hes consistent . He calls regularly, he responds to your text on time, he fulfils up when says he will and he shows up when you expect him to. He doesn’t disappear or wait for you to initiate schemes. He constructs communication simple and easy —
2. Hes honest . He doesnt to continue efforts to delude you or hide the truth from you. He answers your questions even if theyre difficult or deep and he makes things clear to you instead of running away from showdown or sending you mixed signals.
3. He stands by you . When youre having problems or when you need someone to count on, hes there to help you get through things in whichever way he can. He makes it a point to be involved in the good and bad things in their own lives. He doesn’t construct you feel like your problems areor tries to avoid you when you’re down.
4. Hes genuinely interested in your narrative . He wants to know your past, your struggles, your childhood and how you became the person or persons you are today. He doesnt just ask shallow topics, he asks real, deep and meaningful topics because hes
5. He doesnt give up on you . He doesnt look at why things wont work out or find excuses. He doesnt focus on the differences or the roadblocks. He devotes it a real shot even if it might not work out. Even if hes not fully ready, he gives you a chance because he thinks youre worth it.
6. He doesnt confound you . Youre not running around in circles because of his actions. Youre not questioning his feelings for you and asking all your friends if they think he likes you. You know for sure hes not talking to anyone else. Hes when it comes to you.
7. Hes not hung up on an ex or the other girl . A real human is. If he decides to date you, hes dating you because he likes you , not because hes trying to get over an ex or trying to forget another girl. He doesnt lead you on only to tell you that hes still not over his ex.
8. He makes an effort with your inner circle . Your friends, your close coworkers or your family. He wants to meet them and be present at their events and occasions with you. He doesnt want to be known as that guy youre seeing that no one else has ever seen.
9. When he talks about the future, he mentions you . A real man wants you to share his life with the girl he’s dating because he’s, so hell attain you part of his future plans because he doesnt just see you as a temporary daughter. He tries to show you that he assures a future with you.
10. He makes “youre feeling” safe . The biggest sign that youre with a real man, is how secure you feel with him. You feel safe. You know you can count on him. You know he wont let you down. You know he wont abandon you or take his anger out on you or humiliate you in public. He respects you and when youre with him, you feel valued and appreciated. You can him with yourself and your life.
Rania Naim is a poet and author of the new book, available here.
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