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His actions don’t disprove his terms. It doesn’t matter if he invites you out with his friends or if he cooks you breakfast on the mornings he actually stays over. If he told you from the start that he’s happy living the single life and doesn’t want to settle down just yet, then you have to believe him.
You can’t make up a narrative in your intellect about how he’s only saying that because he’s scared, because he doesn’t want to get hurt again. Maybe that’s the truth — but if he’s not ready, he’s not ready. You can’t change that fact , no matter how strong your connection is.
Live in the moment without putting too much focus on the future.
When he sends you a good morning text at 10 AM, enjoy that he was thinking of you on that particular day, but don’t expect him to send another sweet message tomorrow.
When he introduces you to his parents, be happy that he’s comfy enough to show you off, but don’t daydream about spending the holidays with them and calling them your in-laws.
Try to enjoy every second that you spend with him, so when your’ relationship’ eventually aims, you’re happy about the memories you built instead of disappointed about the future “youve never” got to have.
Keep in mind that. You aren’t in an official relationship.
It might feel like you’re betraying your almost boyfriend when you flirt with other boys, but there’s no label, which means you’re allowed to go out with whoever you want. You’re allowed to text other people until 2 AM and accept their beverage offers.
If that induces your almost boyfriend uncomfortable, then he patently has strong impressions for you, which means you can start a real relationship. You can trench the.
But he can’t have you all to himself if he doesn’t want anything official. He can’t refuse to date you but get angry when you date other guys. That’s not the way relationships work.
Don’t take things too far.
You know how much you can handle. You know whether sleeping with him will attain your impressions for him grow even deeper, if it will trick you into believing he’s the only son in the world for you. And if that’s the case, don’t do it.
Keep texting him. Keep flirting with him. Keep doing all of the things that you’re comfy doing. Just don’t take it a step too far and fall hard for him.
Until he gives you proof that he’s actually willing to commit to you, maintain things casual.
Never stay with someone who attains you feel shitty about yourself.
If your almost boyfriend gives you a confidence boost because of all the compliments and kisses he dedicates, stay with him. But if he makes you feel even more insecure about yourself because he’s flaky and refuses to commit, then leave him behind.
Every relationship, even almost relationships, are meant to construct you happier.
If you’re complaining about him every day and weeping over him every night, then it’s time for you to find someone new. Someone it doesn’t hurt to love.
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