Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds famous actors, yes, but also a famously awesome couple.
The pair is widely known as funny, down-to-Earth mothers to their two young girl not to mention total #couplegoals.
But just because they love to goof around and cracking gags doesn’t mean they take their jobs as parents lightly.
In a uncovering interview with Glamour, Lively opened up about the couple’s plans for creating strong, independent daughters.
Though she acknowledges she doesn’t always know the right thing to do, she shared an anecdote about reading a script that had a profound effect on the way she talks to and around her daughters 😛 TAGEND
“I was reading a script, and this woman, whos very tough, did something where she took control of their own lives. And so shes sitting, gripping the wheel, ‘a look of empowerment on her face.’ And I guessed, Hmm, they dont point that out about men: ‘Look how empowered he is.’ Its just innate.”
At home, Lively tells, she and her husband make a conscious effort to avoid language that’s either subtly sexist or even by default male.
” [ Reynolds] will pick up, like a caterpillar, and instead of telling, ‘Whats his name? ‘ hell tell, ‘Whats her name? ‘” Lively said. “Or weve joked that my daughter is bossy. But my husband said, ‘I dont ever want to use that word again. Youve never heard a man called bossy.'”
As a big-time Hollywood actor and now movie producer, Lively knows a thing or two about how people react to strong women and knows firsthand how damaging stereotypes can be.
“Were all born feeling perfect until someone tells us were not, ” she told of her daughters.
In other words, girls aren’t born feeling somehow inferior. Rather, the world tries to slowly beat it into them.
“So theres nothing I can teach my daughter[ James ], ” Lively told. She already has all of it. The only thing I can do is protect what she already feels. I do know that I have to watch her and listen to her and not project any of my own insecurities or battles on her.”
The statistics demonstrate Lively’s point: How we use gendered language truly matters.
Calling a caterpillar a girl or a boy may not seem like a very important decision, but consider this:
Children’s volumes are far more likely to feature a male lead character, Hollywood is as non-gender-inclusive as it’s ever been, and most of us assume doctors or other high-level professionals are a “he.”
From the time we’re bear, we are surrounded by a culture that paints women around a corner. Tells them that they can be a nurse but not a doctor. That they can’t given responsibility lest they be labeled “bossy.” Tells them that not even an anthropomorphic farm animal can have the spotlight if it’s a girl.
Lively and Reynolds are get a jump on fighting back. If you’re part of a couple that wants to be just like them, following their lead on this would be an awesome place to start.
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