How To Get A Guys Attention (Its Not The Way You Think)

Rahul Anil

This advice is not like other advice you might read online such as wear sexy clothes, flick you hair or other superficial advices that have only a hit-and-miss success rate at best and can make you look desperate and unclassy at the worst. Instead Im going to show you how to get a mans attention using a psychological approach to get into his mind.

When we like/ love someone, our natural inbuilt answer is to try and get the attention of such person or persons in order to create a gateway to bring them into our lives. After all, if the person or persons doesnt even notice us then they can hardly fall in love with us. So it is necessary to find a way of get into such person or persons mind even if it is at a distance to begin with it. But, this is where most people make a mistake

a BIG mistake.

What mistake?

Some people confound attracting person with attracting attention. And this is the wrong approach. Its easy to attract a guys attention but that doesnt mean that that attention will cause him to be attracted to you.

Attracting people attention in general by doing something unusual( or even by doing something stupid) might get such person or persons attention for a few moments but this attention is short-lived and doesnt equal attraction. The same goes for attracting a guys attention using superficial advice such as wear sexy clothes and so on.

While these might attract his attention, these will not necessarily attract him in the sense of stimulating him fall in love with you( which is what you want him to do ). You want the guy’s heart not his eyes for a few moments. And thats presuming he doesnt see through the act of flicking your hair etc. as a superficial act that makes you look insecure and desperate to him.

In which lawsuit you could find yourself in a worse position than when you started trying to get his attention in the first place.

So how do I attract his attention to get at his heart?

You need to move past generalized superficial ways of attracting the attention of the guy you like and instead move on to laser targeted ways of attracting him.

Each of us has in our intellect a subliminal guidebook to our perfect partner. This guide is built up, bit by bit, in our subconscious from the moment we are born. Psychologists call this subliminal guide our Lovemap. And a large part of our lovemap is constructed as a result of our unmet needs. If we have a certain unmet need and we meet a potential partner that compensates for our unmet need, our subconscious recognises this new persons as a route of fixing or compensating for our unmet need. The subconscious then looks for a style to bring this person into our lives and the way it does this is to stimulate us fall in love with the person who looks like they can satisfy our unmet need.

Right now the guy you are trying to get the attention of has a subconscious radar which is looking for someone who can compensate for his unmet wants( and his subconscious will cause him to fall in love with members of the public who achieves this or even partly attains this ). Therefore, you should try to get his attention in such a way as to display yourself to his subconscious as someone who can compensate for his unmet wants rather than trying to get his attention in general by flicking your hair or some other such trick.

An Example Of What Might Be On His Subconscious Radar

In order to find out what is on a guys subconscious radar, you need to do some detective work. This can be done in several ways such as šŸ˜› TAGEND

1. Examining the content of his facebook page.

2. Analyzing his hobbies and what has attracted him to these.

3. Examining major life setbacks he may have suffered.

4. Examining his relationship with his family and friends.

5. Asking him carefully worded questions that are designed to get him to unknowingly uncover his unmet requires without him even realizing it.

6. Examining his personality type and what types of needs people of such a personality types tend to be looking for.

Lets tell for example that a guy is really into muscle building and you find out that he was once bullied in school and this affected him. There is a strong chance that his muscle building is a compensating mechanism to make up for the fact that he was bullied in school and was not able to deal with it.

Such a guy wants to feel strong. So the way to get the attention of this kind of guy would be to compliment him on his physique and tell him he appears strong. Then go one step further and compliment him on his mental strength too. In the same route that the guy got attached to muscle building at the gym to compensate for his unmet want, he will begin to grow attached to you because you too are a mechanism to compensate for his unmet want. You are making him feel strong just like muscle building does.

Slowly the guy will begin to feel drawn to you emotionally and wont know why. He will have a sense of feeling happy and complete in your company and attribute this to love and think it was fate or fate that brought the two of you together.

But there is also something else you need to watch out for:

In this example you would also want to come across as someone who is strong yourself. Remember, this guy is looking for a way to bring strength into his life. Muscle building is one such style. If you were to showing yourself as someone who is helpless and unable to cope with things in their own lives, the guy would be to turn as his subconscious would only see you as another source of weakness to add to their own lives( in addition to his weakness of being bullied in his past and not being able to deal with it ).

If you are trying to superficial tricks such as licking your lips to get his attention and dont pull these off convincingly, he may see through what youre doing and opinion you as someone who is weak and has to put on a false front to get people attention. He himself is putting on a false front( by muscle building to compensating for his past) so he would not be turned on by someone who he also acknowledges as putting on a false front. He would equate putting on a false front as a sign of weakness , not strength.

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