Submarining Is A New Dating Trend Thats Out To Ruin Your Relationship (And Your Life)

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I am candidly so over dating tendencies. Seriously, what is it with modern dating? We’ve had ghosting, we’ve had cushioning, we’ve had breezing( which is admittedly not terrible ), and now we have the worst of all: submarining.

So what is submarining? Just in case the name didn’t devote it away, let me explain: basically, it’s when a dude( or girl) goes off the radar for some time before resurfacing in their own lives, as if they’d never disappeared at all. And trust me, there’s a lot of emphasis on that last part.


What’s baffling about this particular dating “trend”( do we have to call it that ???) is that the people who submarine other people don’t acknowledge the fact that they ever disappeared in the first place. Perhaps they don’t even think they did. While you were pissed over being ghosted again, it’s possible that they literally had no notion what they were doing. And that’s what induces it so much worse than all the other dating trends.

At least most people who only ghost you at least realize that they did it. If you confront them about it, there’s a possibility they’ll own up to it. But submariners have zero self awareness, entailing they not only didn’t realize they disappeared on you but they had no notion that their actions could’ve hurt you. Do you really require someone like that in their own lives?

My advice: if someone is submarining you, let that fucker just sink back down into the murky, shady water that they came from. After all, if they did it once and truly had no idea what they were doing, there’s a strong chance they’ll do it again. But hey, the choice is up to you.

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