( March 21 st to April 19 th)
Slow down. Enjoy the little moments. Stop letting yourself be intimidated by commitment. Don’t be afraid of little unhurried bits of time together, like a long and relaxed coffee date with no agenda. Call in sick to work and expend the working day in bed, run investigating within your very own city, take a class together- find little adventures with the other person every single day.
( April 20 th to May 21 st)
Accept that you don’t already know everything about love. Be humble, but also have standards and know that you deserve a good person. Be okay given the fact that you’ll never be able to control the other person’s options or impressions. Be patient. Be okay if it goes slow- that can be a very good thing.
( May 22 nd to June 21 st)
Remember that you don’t have to take everything so seriously. Listen and try to stay in the moment. Tell your brain to shut up sometimes, when it’s being negative or panicky or afraid. Breathe. Ask for what you want, look for what you want. Be honest with yourself first, and be honest with them second.
( June 22 nd to July 22 nd)
Know that you deserve the world. Be cautious with your heart but not paranoid. Walk away from the ones you can tell will put themselves first. Don’t worry about fixing anyone. Speak up when you feel something- when you’re hurt or giddy or falling- and don’t apologize for it.
( July 23 rd to August 22 nd)
Follow your gut instead of trying to follow a scheme. Sign up for and show up to creative things that will introduce you to other creative people. Expend more time asking questions than you do talking about yourself. Recollect that you can only control your own selections. Find joy and excitement in this fact, instead of frustration.
( August 23 rd to September 22 nd)
Allow your sense of pragmatism to have a say in your love life, but not full control over it. Take risks. Be open with your heart. Tell your brain to shut up when it merely wants to come up with reasons why you shouldn’t go on a date with person or why it won’t work out. Know that you’re interesting, and smart, and fun to talk to- don’t let yourself feel like you’re ever wasting someone’s time. Just give yourself the freedom to exist.
( September 23 rd to October 22 nd)
Do things because wishes to do them. Stop trying to please everybody else. When you’re with person, let yourself truly be with them in that moment, instead of thinking about all the other places you could or should be. Trust your instinct, trust your sense of decision-making. Make options that will stimulate you happy, and ignore what everyone else thinks.
( October 23 rd to November 22 nd)
Give yourself permission to be happy. Be who you are- don’t to continue efforts to stimulate yourself smaller to stimulate someone else comfy. Be conscious of your negative supposes; the more conscious you are of them, the less free reign they have over your intellect. Let yourself gravitate towards the people who induce you laugh, and the ones who make love seem a little bit lighter than you’re used to.
( November 23 rd to December 21 st)
Make the first move. Take a risk. to put yourself out there. Remember that you’re the one who has control over your love life , not anyone else. Be your happy and bright ego, but when you find person you connect with, don’t be afraid to also let them assure the parts of you that are self-conscious and uncertain and scared.
( December 22 nd to January 20 th)
Give yourself permission to laugh. Remember that, yes, love should involve some practical thinking and some logic, but that also, a lot of the time it will not make sense. Attain peace with this truth. Be silly. When you find someone who brings this silliness out of you, don’t let them go.
( January 21 st to February 18 th)
Open up, open up, open up. Don’t be almost-you. Don’t be you-with-a-wall-in-front. Let people see you. Be vulnerable. The only thing you’re protecting when you keep walls up is your own loneliness. Lean towards the one who makes you a little bit nervous, that usually means your heart is sensing something great.
( February 19 th to March 20 th)
Decide for yourself what you want. Choose for yourself that you deserve big love. Stop watching it happen to other people and assuming you’ll never have that. Believe you’ll have it, believe you deserve it. Ask questions, tell people when you’re interested in them, say’ yes’ to dates even if you’re not sure yet if you’d like them. Go out. Do things. Remember that this is how the unexpected moments happen.
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