The Truth Is, Closure Doesnt Exist

Noel Nichols

Closure doesn’t exist. It never has and it never will. Because close entails ending. Closure means peace. Close entails a closed- door. But that never happens.

Because there will always be topics. There will always be’ whys ‘. There will always be’ what ifs’ and there will never be a true finale to your feelings.

It doesn’t matter why it aimed or why you two broke up. It doesn’t matter if it was a ten year relationship or a two month fling. It doesn’t matter if you met at a bar or met at a wedding. It doesn’t matter how big or small the love was .

The truth is, closure? It’s a myth.

Closure is something that is too good to be true. It’s too much of a fairytale. It’s too much of a happily ever after. And frankly? It’s never be happening. Because no matter what, love doesn’t just end. It doesn’t aim after a conversation or an hour lunch violate or a nightly goodbye. Love mattered and close doesn’t make it not matter.

Love doesn’t end when you break up. It doesn’t stop your heart from feeling or caring or loving.

It doesn’t matter what excuse they give you. It doesn’t matter what they say on the phone, saying it’s not you, it’s me. It doesn’t matter how much they tell you how special you are and how luck you are able to induce someone else one day.

It doesn’t matter because it still hurts. It still stings. It still breaks you. Closure is just another term for breakup, for goodbye and for see you never.

Maybe it’s a pessimistic view of’ closure ‘. Maybe I’m biased. Maybe I’ve been broken one too many times. Maybe I’m just tired of getting bite. Maybe I’m just exhausted of the dating world. Maybe closure really does help you feel better. Maybe it brings you a sense of relief. Maybe it actually does exist for you .

But for me, close is nothing but a curtain call that closes temporarily. It’s still messy. Hearts still hurt and aching and bleed. Wounds are still deep. Sometimes the damage will be too far gone and done. And sometimes it will be irreversible.

Saying goodbye doesn’t mean impressions go out the window. Objective things doesn’t mean that emotions die and wither. Closure simply puts an imaginary smiley face on top of your heart. An imaginary coat of paint to mask the hurt.

But the hurt will always come back. The loss will always come back. The feelings will always be there, perhaps hidden, or maybe in plain sight, but they will linger.

And the love? That they are able to always bide.

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