What It Actually Means To Be A Strong Girl Because Its Not All About Your Independence

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Being a strong girl means waking up with your alarm — even when the only thing you wishes to do is smash-up snooze — and get shit done. It means putting 100% into every little thing you do, even if you aren’t going to be rewarded for your efforts. Even if no one else is going to notice how hard you worked and give you congratulations. It entails doing your best for your own benefit. Because you want to make proud. Fuck what anybody else has to think.

Being a strong girl entails get over heartbreak. Climbing over career obstacles. Socializing with people you are forced to see but can scarcely stomach. It means creating new ways to survive the harshest things this world hurls at you and never losing your handle on hope in the process.

Being a strong girl means loving yourself, or at least accepting yourself, even when the world tries to convince you to change your styles. It means saying to gender roles and traditional beauty standards, because you know in your heart you are sexy as a motherfucker and can achieve any aim you define your heart on. It entails laughing at the ones who doubt you, because they are going to realize how wrong they were someday soon.

Being a strong girl means trusting yourself, believing in yourself, relying on yourself. It entails standing tall. It entails cultivating your freedom. It means feeling comfortable alone, because you don’t need another person in the room to experience happiness. Because you are more than fine on your own, you on your own.

Being a strong daughter means getting called a bitch because you put person in their place instead of letting yourself get strolled over. It means being called a slut because you were comfortable enough with your sexuality for casual sex, or ironically, because you were brave enough to turn person down. It means being called degrading names on a daily basis and being called when you let the world know how pissed you are.

Being a strong daughter means speaking your mind, even when you are going to be crucified for your opinion. It means standing up for what you believe in instead of choosing the quiet, comfy route. It entails knowing what you deserve and refusing to settle for less — in your relationships, in your career, in society as a whole. It entails going against the grain, because you are a complicated being who can not be defined by her gender.

Being a strong girl entails waking up on the days when you feel like giving up. It entails choosing you are going to keep chugging along, even when your anxiety or depression gets the best of you. It entails making a decision to live, even when all you want to do is succumb. It entails exhaling. It means existing. Because this life is fucking hard, and if you are still here, if you are managing to make it through this hell, you can consider yourself a strong daughter.

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