Healing Means The Pain No Longer Controls You Even If You Cant Forget It

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Healing is a long process and it’s a long journey. There’s no right way to heal and realistically there’s no right route to forget. You don’t have to forget your deepest ache and you shouldn’t. It scarred you but it also changed you. It wounded your soul but it also taught you the art of surviving. The art of choosing to live and fight for your happiness.

Healing means you remember everything but it doesn’t hurt anymore. You look at the ones who hurt you and you don’t feel a thing. You look at them and they don’t have that power anymore. They don’t have the power to ruin your day and their own lives. You’ve overcome their demons and their ghosts. You’ve let their toxicity run. They’re the reason why you understand that you’re better off without some people. They’re the reason why you understand that some people have to go for better people to come along.

Healing means you know that some broken pieces of you are able to never be the same again but that will never stop you from loving again with all your heart, from believing again after losing all hope, from starting over after hitting rock bottom. Mending means you’re not scared of getting hurt again because you know how to bounce back and you know life will never be free of ache.

Don’t listen to people who ask you to forget about your problems or your pain or your sorrow, you can’t just forget something that changed you eternally, you can’t just forget someone who meant the world to you, you can’t just forget and you shouldn’t set that kind of pressure on yourself.

Healing means you shows up your scars with pride. It means you tell your painful tales with wisdom. It means you forgive yourself for allowing people to hurt you. It means you don’t define yourself by the people who broke your heart. It means speaking softly about yourself instead of blaming yourself for the pain you had to endure .

Healing doesn’t mean forgetting, it means remembering everything but instead of letting it weigh you down, let it lift you up. You still smile. You still love. You still dedicate. You still believe. The pain won’t stop you from living.

Healing is a reminder that nothing was ever strong enough to you.

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