“American Idol” is back and apparently now features some judge-on-contestant kissing.
It’s hard to keep people interested in a indicate entering its 16 th season, so it constructs sense that show’s new home at ABC would pull out all the stops to try to get people’s attention. In the season premiere for the new season, judge Katy Perry violated new ground on the present, bestowing a quick peck on the lips to 19 -year-old Benjamin Glaze.
After joking that he liked his task as a cashier at an electronics store because it meant that cute girls have to say hi to him, judge Luke Bryan asked Glaze if he’s “kissed a girl and would prefer it, ” an obvious including references to Perry’s 2008 mega-hit. He says that he’s actually never kissed a girl. Naturally, Perry asked Glaze to come closer and kiss her on the cheek. As he leaned in, Perry turned her head and kissed him on the lips.
Some people online rapidly pointed to the underlying issue of permission, and they’re absolutely right.
Though Glaze didn’t seem to mind the kiss, Perry should have asked him first. From what viewers see( as it’s entirely possible there were bits of relevant dialogue cut out by producers ), he consented to kissing her cheek , not getting a kiss on the lips.
Still, a number of media outlets and Twitter users framed the encounter in a sort of ” he’s so lucky , ” isn’t this adorable , ” ” this is so cute” type of style. “Katy Perry gave one luck ‘American Idol’ contestant his very first kiss — and his reaction is hilarious, ” read the headline of an article at Insider.
But imagine how different the reaction would have been had the roles been reversed? What if instead of Perry kissing a male contestant 14 years younger than her, it was Bryan doing the same with a female contestant? If we’re being honest with ourselves, we can probably admit that the situation wouldn’t have seemed quite as “cute” or “funny, ” right? It’s a safe bet there wouldn’t be media outlets rushing to cover it that way either.
It’s less about this specific instance and more the message it sends — especially to kids.
For one, we owe it to boys and men to care about their ability to consent as much as we owe it to girls and women. When we treat situations differently based on the gender of the person breaching permission, we’re not sending a good message, particularly when it comes to younger viewers.
At her Baby Sideburns blog, novelist Karen Alpert strolled through some of the questions she had with the segment, which are worth consideration.
“But there are millions of children watching your every move. Girls and boys, ” writes Alpert. “And when you kiss a son on the lips without his permission, when you trick him into that, you’re teaching our children the incorrect thing. I’m not telling every teenager out there has to ask permission for every single little kiss, but you do have to be pretty sure that’s what someone wants before you do that.”
The kiss was harmless, and this isn’t meant to be some sort of attack on Perry. But let’s learn from it and build a better world for our kids based around these lessons.
It’s a teachable moment for us all and, again, was pretty harmless in the big picture. It’s because it was harmless that it is possible to learn from it the next time something isn’t harmless.
Watch the full clip of Glaze’s audition below.
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