This Is How You Treat Her

Montse Monmo

Take care of her .

Not because she can’t take care of herself. She can. She has. And she’s flourished living alone. But she deserves to be taken care of.

Mentally. Listen when she speaks and remember what she tells. Because so many people that came before you didn’t take the time to want to understand her.

Break down her walls because everybody before you taught her she had to build them up so high she was afraid to let person in. Show her she can be vulnerable. So her sensitivity is not a sign of weakness but rather a strength those before you didn’t appreciate.

Touch her in a manner that is that heals her. Present what sexuality actually means and it isn’t something to simply build you feel good. Present her you respect her body for everyone who never did before you. For everyone who ever find her as a woman to fulfill their needs show her they were wrong.

Make her a priority.

Because so many people that came before you treated her like an option. Show her you’re choice her every day. That the loyalty she so carelessly gives is going to someone who deserves her. Talk to her. Make time to her. Care about how her day was and induce her feel good. Because so many people before you didn’t. Change your schedule if it means seeing her. Prefer her first. And in return she will give you her absolute best.

Accept her.

At her worst. At her best. Stick it out through both. Tell her she’s beautiful even if she doesn’t believe it. She’s overcome with insecurities from people who made her feeling not good enough. And there are going to be moments where she wonders if she’s good enough for you. If she deserves you. Meanwhile you are looking at her and wondering how YOU get so lucky. She’s not pompous or arrogant or cocky. She’s just trying her best to be the best but it never seemed like enough before you.

Tell her she’s beautiful every day.

Be honest .

Because she always will be. And that franknes has screwed her over so many times in the past when it came to people who told her what she wanted to hear but didn’t entail it. She learned to only trust herself. Because of that she became guarded and jaded and afraid. Be honest with her because she deserves it.

Accept her.

Understand she’s not perfect but she tries. Acknowledge her insecurities but build up her strength. Understand she’s been critisized her entire life so when she asks your opinion what she’s truly asking is acceptance. Is she good enough? Is she pretty enough? Should she change. So many people in her life wanted to change her and turn her into something she wasn’t. It took everything in her to remain true to herself. Opposing the hardest battle there is when everyone tells you you’re incorrect and that you should change. But she never allowed people’s unkindness to change her even when it hurt.

Love her .

Love her harder than you have ever loved anyone because the girls who deserve love the most and love the best have a history of the complete opposite and that’s what they learned from.

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