This guys disturbing group chat shows how easy it is for men to dismiss rape.

Four times, Brian typed out an honest response to send to his guy friends in their group text message. But he didn’t share a single one of them. All four times, Brian — the fictional main character in a new PSA from the It’s On Us campaign — caved before reaching send.

Brian’s friends’ convo began like many do after a night out drinking: reminiscing about what happened hours earlier.

“Morning, ” Dave began. “Everyone still with us? “

“Not sure Mike’s girl is, ” Ed responded.

“Lol, ” Mike piped in. “Drunkest. Sexuality. Ever.”

Brian decided to be frank. “Dude, ” he typed. “Hooking up with that girl was messed up.” But then he believed twice, and deleted it. Instead, he typed out, “That was sexual assault or whatever.”

He deleted that message too.

The disturbing conversation continued.

A pic was shared mocking one of the women Brian’s friend slept with.

“Chick was junked, ” Dave remarked.

“Ugh, ” Brian wrote, increasingly frustrated. “You guys are part of the problem.” Again, he decided against sending it. He sent nothing instead.

“Who even was that? ” Ed responded a few moments later.

“That’s the girl you raped, ” Brian wrote candidly — before deleting it again.

After all that, Brian ran with a wincing face emoji. The group giggled off the emoji, and rapidly moved on to breakfast plans — as if the rapes never even happened.

It’s scary to gues Brian’s friends dismissed the fact that Ed and Mike had assaulted females the night before. It’s even scarier to guess how often a dialogue like that actually happens.

Maybe Dave and Carl were sitting alone debating if they should say something about the assaults too, like Brian had been doing. But neither of them did. Through their choice to stay quiet, every bystander fostered the behaviour.

But, research shows friends actually can make a big difference when they speak up about sexual assault. In 2014, NPR reported that evidence suggests a man is more likely to commit acts of sexual violence when he has friends who reject( or even encourage) it. The opposite is also true.

Peer pressure — for better or worse — makes a big difference.

“One of the things that matters most to boys and emerging adult men is the opinion of other men, ” John Foubert, a researcher at Oklahoma State University, explained to NPR.

That’s an important distinction between other botched, victim-blaming attempts to curb sexual violence and the It’s On Us campaign.

As its name suggests, It’s On Us focuses on humen .

We shouldn’t be telling females to avoid short skirts and alcohol in order to not get raped. We should be telling men and boys not to be rapists .

“Guys, if you know someone who’s had sexuality with a girl who didn’t or couldn’t permission, it’s on you to confront him, ” former Vice President Joe Biden, a leading voice of the campaign, said in the PSA’s closing. “Fear is no excuse. You can help put an end to sexual assault.”

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