What Planned Parenthood could learn from me: Being a teenage mom was hard, but it sure didnt ruin my life

It had happened to a few girls in my high school before me, some of whom promptly had an abortion and moved on with their lives. Except this time it was me. The inundation of emotions I experienced upon learning of my pregnancy as I started my senior year of high school was dominated by fear and shame.

Needless to say, this wasn’t the most schemed aspect of my life and certainly was not on my regimented timeline for becoming a doctor- or for life in general, for that are important. Many around me said I wouldn’t accomplish my goals and that if I went through with the pregnancy I would not only ruin my life but my child’s as well. I also determined myself questioning whether I really could amount to anything, other than being a statistic and ultimately a single parent.

I would be remiss if I minimized this moment into political rhetoric. The decision to have my son at a young age was not based on political or religious beliefs. On the contrary, it was based on emotion and responsibility. Had this happened decades prior I may have been forced into an unsafe abortion or hidden away during my pregnancy and my child would have been given away. I am grateful to have had the choice to choose life.

I am a disciple that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percentage how we react to it. There were many dark nights where I questioned my ability to continue moving forward and not become the failure I felt nearly destined to be. I expended the next 14 years juggling full-time school, part-time employment and creating a child to the best of my ability. I was privileged that those in my life who may have doubted my decisions did not hesitate to step in and help me.

My story is meant to be an inspiration to let girls know that they are not destined for failure if they find themselves in the middle of an unplanned pregnancy. And although, yes, they do have a option, opting life may be the best choice for them.

Now, my dream of becoming a doctor has been a reality for four years, and my beautiful baby boy- who has been with me since before my high school graduation- is preparing for his own graduation, and will soon be off to the college of his choice. My hope for him and his life is that he does not find himself ever feeling trapped or “stuck” due to his decisions. But if he does find himself in an unfavorable situation, I hope the last 18 years have taught him that he is in charge of his life, and whether he gets through it or not is on him.

Thankfully, my pregnancy was not the end of my story. Today I practice medicine at one of the world’s largest cancer centers. I have a loving husband and three incredible sons. I was determined to prove that notorious connotation of “teenage pregnancy” wrong, at the least as it pertained to me.

Unplanned pregnancy can be devastating to many and not everyone will have an outcome similar to mine if they select life. But I also know that it is within each one of “us”- teenage moms- to get ourselves to where we want to go in this lifetime.

The current arguing surrounding Schemed Parenthood is a result of poor decision making and nothing more. The questions being debated is not pro-life or pro-choice but rather a woman’s access to quality health care and the human rights of religion liberty.

We would be ignorant if we disregarded its most important health care that Planned Parenthood provides to Americans including cervical cancer screening, clinical breast quizs, vaccinations and STD treatments.

However, decades ago Schemed Parenthood blurred the lines by performing elective abortions under the same roof as these necessary health care services. Although government funding does not directly repay for abortion services, their water are muddied and brings to question the right of religious freedom and whether taxpayers should money an institution that offer abortions under the same roof.

President Trump’s proposal to eliminate government funding for Schemed Parenthood through Title X is not a threat to a woman’s access to health care. Planned Parenthood reportedly expended $38 million dollars on the 2016 election alone. Rather than spending such a large sum of money on legislators perhaps they should use that fund to create a separate entity to divide essential health care services from elective abortion procedures.

Sharing my tale on my decision to choose life is not a lecturing or debate on what is right or wrong- because, as we all discover, there are few linear right and incorrect decisions in life.

Rather it is meant to be an inspiration to let females know that they are not destined for failure if they find themselves in the middle of an unplanned pregnancy. And although, yes, they have a option, choosing life may be the best choice for them.

I can also tell you that having my son at persons under the age of 18 has been one of my greatest accomplishments yet.

Nicole Saphier is a board certified radiologist with advanced fellowship training in Oncologic Imaging and Breast Imaging. She is active in health care advocacy and legislation outside of her clinical and research responsibilities as the Director of Breast Imaging, Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center – Monmouth Regional. She lives in the NYC area with her husband, three sons and Weimaraner.

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