Im Ready To Say Goodbye To 2017

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2017, I’m ready to say goodbye to you .

You came so fast and in the winking of the eyes, the time has come for you to leave. I’m surprisingly glad that there are no hard impression or any lingering regret that make it so hard to part with you. You are all that I expect and hope for. Your lessons are timely and serve as an important reminder when I get swept away with the buzzing activities of the everyday life.

2017 had been a year of healing and redemption. I detected the courage to remove the toxic people in my life. I choice forgiveness to accelerate my own recovery process. I let go of the need to control my every emotion.

And when I took the plunge, I realized that there was indeed no loss.

In truth, I gained the lucidity of my mind to be who I am instead of being weighed down by their harmful presence and destructive terms. In letting them go, I observed my identity and the person that I’m meant to be. In walking boldly into the future, I’m espousing arousing a modification to bring me to the places I’m supposed to go. In forgiving the mistakes of the past, I’m dedicating myself the opportunity to be the bigger person and rise from the ashes of yesterday.

2017 had been a year of accepting the person I am and the route I’m taking. I detected happiness in my journey and I’m grateful to be at the place I am. I accepted myself wholeheartedly and I’m excited about growing to be my ideal self.

No longer do I constantly scramble for the next best thing while rejecting casually of what I had achieved previously . I stopped eyeing for the next prize to possess but to slow and be still in the moment. I stopped being obsessed with wanting to know the next step but being present in the moment.

I started becoming more in tune with my impression and appreciating how happiness is a constant work in progress and not a destination that I can rush towards. I started embracing my flaws and insecurities as they construct them me instead of surrendering to the dark voices in my head telling me that, I wasn’t good enough.

2017 had been a year of growth and radial changes .

I learned to jump start on what I want instead of waiting for time to pass me by. I learned to seize the working day and spend time with my loved ones. I learned to be comfortable outside of my convenience zone so that I can rise higher and reaching greater height. I learned to move on from what wasn’t working and focus on what is going well.

With that goodbye 2017, I’m ready to let you go.

I’m ready for 2018 to begin.

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MLS Cup: Five things we learned from Toronto’s cathartic, legacy-sealing win

Michael Bradley and Jozy Altidore enjoyed sweet vindication as Toronto FC built their most compelling pitch for Major League Soccers best squad ever

This was catharsis for Altidore and Bradley

The spirit of blamed has been bouncing around US soccer circles since the USA’s World Cup elimination- but over the course of these MLS playoffs far more than the market share has settled on Michael Bradley and Jozy Altidore. Both men were booed by resisting fans every time they touched the ball during the course of its playoffs, and both had their struggles- Bradley was nullified by Tyler Adams in the home playoff loss to the Red Bulls, while Altidore considered red in the same game and missed the first leg against Columbus.

There’s no doubt that the fallout for “the member states national” team will continue for some time to come, but on Saturday evening, the pair at least got to put an emphatic full stop on the other tale of their year- the obsessive drive to put right what went wrong when Toronto lost a home MLS Cup final last year.

Altidore, as he did in leg two against Columbus, burst through the core of the oppose defense to open the scoring, ensuring that the three goals he managed in these playoffs will be remembered long after the six he scored last year are forgotten. And Bradley was immense in the holding role- dropping deep to coordinate his defense in possession, and tigerish in his pursuit of the ball every time Seattle had the temerity to try and possess it in his half. In many styles, if Altidore’s exuberant goalscoring kind was the story of the 2016 playoff run, Bradley’s bloody-minded determination was the story of 2017, as first New York, then Crew SC, tried and ultimately failed to knocking Toronto off their stride.

Vanney won the battle of the coaches

It’s a measure of how nervy the last month or so has been, as free-scoring attacking soccer has given route to a slog in the playoffs, that when Toronto’s Greg Vanney made the switch to a 4-4-2 diamond for the final, the first instinct of neutrals was not to credit his tactical nous, but to wonder if he’d second-guessed himself into trouble.

Toronto have played the diamond with some success at moments this season, notably in wresting control of the Eastern Conference final back from Crew SC in the second half of the second leg. But their usual 3-5-2 had utterly stifled Seattle last season, and while this was a more attacking Sounders team than 2016, the onus should in theory have been on Brian Schmetzer to figure out a route past Toronto.

Instead Schmetzer’s team played into Toronto’s hands, by pushing into the spaces they were invited into and failing to cover the spaces they’d left. Combined with Toronto’s mix of tenacity and creativity, there was little time or space for Seattle at any stage of the game, and by the end Vanney’s tweaks had find off Schmetzer’s relaxed inclination to keep things simple and trust the players. That had worked in the playoff run, when limited opponent gifted Seattle the time and space to have patience and transgres opponents down. But in the final, Seattle fulfilled the class of the league, and in the post-game press conference a dejected Schmetzer could only lament the duels his players had lost. He’d lost one too.

The best ever?

In the Toronto locker room after the game, several of the players took time out from soaking one another to offer a series of short, excitable toasts. At one point Drew Moor, the defender who’d been part of the cohort of MLS veterans brought in to assist engineer last year’s great leap forward, jumped on a locker seat and silenced the room, to yell out,” This debate on’ Are we the best team ever ?’ It’s fucking over !”

Canadian Champions, Supporters Shield Winners, and now MLS Cup winners. Toronto won everything they could win this year, and violated multiple league records in doing so. If they aren’t the best ever, we’re into the deeply subjective realm of style points to say that they’re not.

Even the scrappy periods of the playoff wins were a perverse kind of tribute to how good they are. None of their foes could hope to impose themselves on Toronto, they could only hope to live with them or stop them, with intermittent but ultimately futile success.

It may be too that Toronto has not been quite so sparkling since the last month of the regular season, as the various finish line described near. But they were so far ahead for so long, that some dip was perhaps inevitable. And when it mattered most they were back to their best to secure their legacy. The best ever? For now.

Toronto’s Sebastian Giovinco vies for the ball with Seattle Sounders midfielder Cristian Roldan. Photo: Networ/ Sipa USA/ REX/ Shutterstock

Frei and Dempsey add unwanted chapters to their own MLS history

Spare a thought for Clint Dempsey and Stefan Frei. After his recovery from a season-ending heart ailment maintained him out of last year’s MLS Cup triumph, Dempsey was billed as the player who could help his squad achieve much more than another smash-and-grab raid this year. But like all of his squad mates he aimed up as a peripheral presence watching red shirts swarm around him at every glimpse of objective. He’d get a shot on target- more than his squad mates managed last year. But it was a tamed shooting scuffing along the ground into Alex Bono’s limbs and that was as dangerous as Deuce got. Three finals for him now, and three losses.

Stefan Frei meanwhile, deserved so much more than being on the losing side of this game, and it will be little consolation to him that there was a instead perfect symmetry in Jozy Altidore being the man to finally get the ball past him on Saturday evening, after his miraculous save against the same striker last year. Frei was outstanding again, beating away shooting after shot as he racked up 186 unbeaten minutes against Toronto in these last two MLS Cups. Near the end of that running, one save from Giovinco looked like it might just tip Toronto into the type of fatal self-doubt that would again haunt them in a penalty shootout, but a few minutes later Giovinco fed the ball to the onrushing Altidore, and from then on, Frei had to settle for a great legacy in MLS Cup folklore, but one less trophy than his performance deserved.

Sebastian Giovinco shares playmaking spotlight with Victor Vazquez

Sebastian Giovinco arrived in MLS with all of the game-changing impact of a cheat code in 2015- at times making Toronto look like a one-man team with his single-handed interventions. Since then his stock has remained high, but the improving roster around him has perhaps muted an appreciation of his qualities- or we’ve just come to take him for awarded. Like Toronto’s other high-profile players the playoffs had been a mixed bag for Giovinco before the final. A sublime free kick to beat the Red Bulls; a needless yellow to hold him out of the first Columbus game; significant impact without dominance.

Giovinco opened the final with a one-on-one miss against Stefan Frei, hit the wall with his first free kick and generally looked a little anonymous by his own criteria, until the moment where he hooked the ball perfectly into the path of Altidore for the winning goal, and in doing so reminded us what a sublime talent he is in the context of this league- a player defenders can never switch off on.

But it was also fitting that Giovinco should share creative top billing with Victor Vazquez, who has been the single player to have most improved Toronto this season. Vazquez’s cool in the final one-third and his motion and distribution into that ares, has had knock on effects in the freedom afforded to Giovinco and Altidore in front of him, and taken a lot of visionary duties off the laundry list of duties Michael Bradley has to attend to behind him. Vazquez had defined the tone for the final early as his switches in play rocked Seattle off balance repeatedly. By the time he bundled in aim number two in trauma day it only corroborated what we already knew: every one of Toronto’s key quartet had indicated up when it mattered most.

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Saudi-backed forces push toward key rebel-held port in Yemen

Yemen’s official news agency is reporting that Saudi-backed forces are advancing toward the Red Sea port of Hodeida, which provides a lifeline to the Shiite rebels known as Houthis.

SABA reported Sunday that Saudi-allied government forces-out have taken control of the town of Tahita in Hodeida province.

Forces loyal to the internationally recognized government are hoping to exploit the collapse of the Houthis’ alliance with fighters loyal to former President Ali Abdullah Saleh, who was killed by the rebels earlier this month.

The coalition has been at war with the rebels since March 2015. The stalemated oppose has killed 10,000 people, displaced 3 million and pushed the country to the brink of famine.

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Caring for older loved ones around the holidays? These 11 tips may help.

The holidays are right around the corner, and for many that entails reuniting with family.

It’s the perfect time to connect over delicious home-baked pies, laugh during competitive charades, and simply generally spread good cheer to one another.

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However, many older loved ones may not be able to participate in the vacation fun as easily as they once could.

Going up and down stairs may be more difficult now, and they might not be able to remember everyone they want to give gifts to. Or perhaps they can no longer drive, which means getting to a specific destination on their own could be tough. Maybe they avoid going to a family meeting wholly because it simply feels too hard.

And if your loved one hasn’t asked for help directly, it can be tough figuring out how to jump in and offer.

If you’re merely learning that they’re developing limitations, the holidays are perhaps the best time to broach the conversation about their current or future care requires. There’s no better moment to construct those extra efforts for the people you love.

Here are 11 things you can do around the holidays for your loved ones who might not know they need assist.

1. Have a pre-holiday gathering to develop a caregiving plan.

Before your family get-together, touch base with everyone to make a plan about how everyone can best subsistence your older loved one during the holidays; that style you can be sure they aren’t left out of the galas. Who will be picking up mommy to bring her to dinner? Who’s taking her shopping? Is someone shoveling her snowfall? Remember that caregiving doesn’t need to be a solo effort.

2. Offer to take them holiday shopping.

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If you’ve noticed they’ve had trouble driving lately, you can suggest taking them vacation shopping. After all, you’re already running. Plus, it’s a fun and meaningful way for you two to spend time together.

3. Bring gifts and family to them.

This is especially helpful if your older loved can’t easily leave the house. If that’s the occurrence, why not arrange the vacation gathering plans around them so they can still be a part of the action? They can enjoy gifts, food, and fun all from the convenience of their home.

4. Use after-dinner time to perhaps start a conversation about next steps.

The kids will likely be off playing, so it’s an ideal time to bring up the subject of how you can be helpful to your older loved one. You don’t wishes to ambush them, but the end of the year is a great time to touch base and ask your loved one how they feel the year has gone and what kind of care and support they might need in the new year.

As AARP’s Prepare to Care Guide states, “a plan should never be made without the participation, knowledge, and consent of your loved one.” By taking an opportunity to begin talking about it over dessert by the hearth, it’ll hopefully feel more like an open-ended conversation.

That said, if the timing doesn’t feel right, you shouldn’t force-out the issue. AARP’s family caregiving expert Amy Goyer says you might use the holidays as a kick off point to schedule the conversation for a later date when everyone can feel up to speed and on the same page.

5. Help them feel included in the holiday galas.

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For older loved ones with Alzheimer’s or other memory loss issues, it’s easy to only fade into the background, especially if they don’t remember past vacation traditions. But the important thing to remember is that holidays are about being together, and no one should be left out. That’s why AARP’s family caregiving expert Amy Goyer stress the importance of encouraging them to get involved in any way they want. From singing carols to decorating the Christmas tree, it’s the interesting thing that may spark some unexpected elation.

“Understand what’s meaningful for them, ” says Goyer. “Think about how you can adapt those things to fit their abilities.”

6. Stimulate them a unique holiday gift that will remind them how much they mean to you.

Maybe it’s a scrapbook filled with photos of your family from past holidays that they can always flip through to recollect wonderful moments. Or, perhaps it’s a watch or necklace “youve had” engraved. Gifts with a real personal touch are a constant reminder that they have household who loves them.

7. Ask them what fun activities they want to do during the holidays.

This is both a route for you to spend more time with your older loved one and make sure they’re going out and doing things. Listing items could include visiting an obscure museum to something as simple as taking the afternoon to learn a cool new game. As loved ones age, they can begin to feel like they’re losing their freedom. Giving them the chance to decide what you’ll do together can be a fun and empowering experience.

“It’s okay to create new traditions, ” emphasizes Goyer.

8. Promote children in the family to interview their elders.

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Considering everyone has a recording device on their phones these days, this is an easy and fun thing to do before or after a holiday snack. Not merely does it strengthen the bond between the generations, it also builds your older loved ones feel like their stories still matter. And at the end of it, you’ll have their memories captured on tape to cherish for years to come.

9. Take a day or two and merely focus on yourself.

This may sound counterintuitive to the season of dedicating, but if you’ve been dedicating a lot of period and effort to working out a caregiving scheme, you may be burned out. If you don’t take some time to recharge, you won’t be useful to your older loved ones — or anyone for that matter. Find that balance between caring for yourself and others is vital to keeping the care going.

10. Seem at the holidays as a chance to test out new living situations.

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If it seems like your older loved one can no longer live alone but isn’t eager to change up their lifestyle, why not indicate they stay with you or a fellow family member over the holidays? It’s an easy way to test out the new situation under ideal, aka celebratory, circumstances.

11. If you live far away from your older loved one, figure out how you can help from a distance.

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You may not be able to be the caregiver on the ground all year long, but that doesn’t mean you can’t do a lot for them. If you’re going to be a point person for care but can’t physically be there, make sure you have a local squad of support lined up. Whether they’re household, friends, or hired help, it’s important to know someone can get to your loved one quickly and easily in an emergency.

The transition into caregiving can be difficult, but getting the ball rolled over the holidays might just make it a little easier.

And no matter what steps you are interested in take, be sure to keep listening to your loved one throughout. They’re a huge part of this new step, and their voice should always matter.

Of course, everyone’s situation will be unique, but if you approach the adjustment thoughtfully and with love, it can make all the difference.

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Coinbase CEO: Please invest responsibly

In a Medium post, the CEO of Coinbase, one of the more popular cryptocurrency exchanges out there, is exhorting users to be responsible about their investments. “We also wanted to remind clients of some of the risks links with trading digital currency, ” CEO Brian Armstrong wrote. “Digital currencies are volatile and the prices can go up and down.”

The startup, which is currently valued at $1.6 billion — though undoubtedly soon to be worth a whole lot more if current trends continue — had a rough day yesterday as the exchange buckled under the pressure of a particularly hefty day of trading. For big swaths of hour, the app was unavailable for many users who were unable to even check their account balance. This came as the Coinbase app skyrocketed to temporarily holding the No. 1 downloaded free app spot in the App Store.

Armstrong says that the resurgence of bitcoin’s popularity and recent dramatic rally has caused a strain on the startup’s infrastructure, but that they’re rapidly scaling to satisfy the demand. The company said it has increased the number of transactions it’s able to handle at peak hours by 40 times, and has scaled up its support team 640 percentage while adding features like phone support.

Nevertheless, Armstrong said that service interruption may still continue. “Despite the sizable and ongoing increases in our technical infrastructure and engineering staff, we wanted to remind customers that access to Coinbase services may become degraded or unavailable during times of significant volatility or volume, ” he said. “This could result in the inability to buy or sell for periods of time.”

The price of a bitcoin is currently resting around $15,000, down virtually 11 percentage over the past 24 hours, according to Coindesk.

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‘Stain on America!’ Trump denounces ‘Fake News Media’ after string of major reporting errors exposed

President Trump on Sunday slammed “the Fake News Media, ” which he called “out of control, ” after a string of major mistakes in reporting on his presidency emerged over the past week.

“Very little discussion of all the purposely false and defamatory stories put out this week by the Fake News Media, ” he tweeted. “They are out of control – correct reporting means nothing to them.”

The president continued, “Major lies written, then forced to be withdrawn after they are exposed…a stain on America! ”

Trump’s remarks came after a Washington Post reporter tweeted a misleading photo about the crowd sizing at Friday’s rally in Pensacola, Fla ., during which Trump took aim at ABC News’ Brian Ross and CNN.

In a now-deleted tweet, the Post’s Dave Weigel posted a photo of a half-empty arena to taunt Trump for saying the rally was “packed to the rafters.”

But that photo was not taken while Trump was speaking. Trump tweeted photos presenting the arena when it was full.

“ .@ daveweigel @washingtonpost put under a phony photo of an empty arena hours before I arrived@ the venue, w/ thousands of people outside, on their way in, ” he tweeted. “Real photos now shown as I spoke. Packed house, many people unable to get in. Demand apology& retraction from FAKE NEWS WaPo! ”

Weigel tweeted, “Sure thing: I apologize, ” saying he deleted the photo after another reporter informed him he had “gotten it wrong.”

“It was a bad tweet on my personal account , not a narrative for Washington Post. I deleted it after like 20 minutes. Very fair to call me out, ” Weigel said in another tweet.

Trump later called for Weigel to be fired.

Earlier at the Friday rally itself, Trump slammed ABC News’ Brian Ross.

“They took this fraudster from ABC — they suspended him for a month, ” he said. “They should have fired him for what he wrote.”

Ross was suspended for four weeks without pay after he reported that former national security consultant Michael Flynn had been directed by Trump — when he was a candidate for chairman — to induce linked with the Russians. ABC News later corrected the report to note that the order to Flynn came when Trump was already president-elect.

Trump also said Friday that CNN had apologized “just a little while ago” for a reporting error.

“They apologized! Oh thank you, CNN. Thank you so much. You should have been apologizing for the last two years, ” he said.

CNN had to correct a narrative that suggested the Trump campaign, including Donald Trump Jr ., had been tip-off off early about hacked DNC emails from WikiLeaks when it afterwards emerged that the alerting was about material already publicly available.

CNN responded, “CNN’s initial reporting of the date on an email sent to members of the Trump campaign about Wikileaks documents, which was confirmed by two sources to CNN, was incorrect. We have updated our narrative to include the correct date, and present the proper context for the timing of email.”

No disciplinary action will be taken in the matter, a CNN official said in a tweet.

On Saturday, Trump accused CNN of “a vicious and purposeful mistake.”

Fox News’ Brian Flood and The Associated Press contributed to this report .

Alex Pappas is a politics reporter at Follow him on Twitter at @AlexPappas .

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5 Disturbing Signs Youre Dating A Pathologically Envious Narcissist

Nastia Cloutier-Ignatiev

Have you ever dated or been in a relationship with someone who seemed to put you down at every turn and sabotage you? Who treated your accomplishments with disdain or your success with callous indifference? If so, you may have encountered a pathologically envious narcissist.

Pathological envy happens to be related to one of the diagnostic criteria for Narcissistic Personality Disorder( American Psychiatric Association, 2013 ). Narcissists are said to be envious of others and yet believe others to be envious of them; they will often project this trait onto others and make their victims feel like they are the insecure ones.

This type of envy, while common among narcissists, isn’t limited to malignant narcissists. Yet narcissistic abusers are more likely to be driven by their envy to engage in destructive behavior towards others in a way that is chronic, impactful and harmful.

If you have been in a relationship with a malignant narcissist, you have probably also been the subject of their pathological bitternes. While jealousy is certainly not the only reason narcissists set victims down, it is part of the reason they feel they need to regain power.

Remember that narcissists pick victims they deem to have something valuable. They surround themselves with people they perceive to be “special and unique”- in fact, that is also part of the diagnostic criteria for their disorder!

Simultaneously, narcissists despise the fact that their targets possess traits, attributes and resources that they covet and are driven to reinforce their sense of superiority.

When gone unchecked, pathological resentment can be a silent murderer in relationships. The victim of someone else’s pathological resentment may suffer backlash, sabotage or abuse due to their success. Depending on the nature and longevity of the relationship, targets may feel penalise for succeeding and develop an aversion to being in the spotlight or owning their true gifts and talents as a result of distorted feedback from the narcissistic abuser.

Here are five behaviors to look for if you suspect you’re dealing with a pathologically envious narcissist or otherwise toxic type 😛 TAGEND

1. The inability to congratulate others on a chore well done .

As obvious as this behavior might seem, it often goes unnoticed and needs to be addressed if it is part of a chronic behaviour pattern. This is someone who cannot even muster the ability to say congratulations when another person is succeeding. A pathologically envious person will find ways to instead detract from your success by asking questions that minimize it, deflate it or ignore it altogether.

A true friend, supportive family member, co-worker or partner would be able to say, “Congratulations! ” or “I am so proud of you! ” because they genuinely happy for your success and are procure within themselves to celebrate it. They are not threatened by the happiness of others nor do they have to constantly find ways to undermine it.

For instance, when narcissistic mothers are envious and hypercritical of their own children, these children develop an inability to self-validate and internalize this lack of affirmation as proof of their unworthiness . If the mother fails to recognize his or her child’s the successes and induces the child feel like he or she will never be good enough regardless of how well they are doing, it programs the child to believe that he or she is undeserving of healthy praise.

As psychotherapist Rev. Sheri Heller( 2016) writes 😛 TAGEND

“Victims of pathological jealousy carry an insidious inescapable shame, which enforces the edict that one’s gifts are a threat, responsible for instigating impressions of bitternes, inadequacy and hence, envy.”- Pathological Envy: Can Self-Worth Be Reclaimed ?

As a result, the child does not establish a healthy level of trust early on in their capabilities, skill sets or sense of ego. This can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors subsequently in adulthood, as they hide themselves and inter their gifts in an attempt to escape the same punishment, invalidation and hypercriticism they received in childhood.

2. A constant redirection to one’s self when he or she is not in the center of attention. This can also include omitting, alienating and ostracizing the main victims by bullying them in social circles .

A pathologically envious person will find ways to’ divert’ from your success, especially if they experience inconvenience at the fact that it places you at the center of attention, garnering the praise they feel entitled to. They may redirect the conversation back to themselves and their own accomplishments, engage in a covert put-down or backhanded compliment, or change the subject wholly. A pathologically envious narcissistic person may even go so far as to sabotage your success or to continue efforts to surpass you in a way that brings them back into the limelight.

In the context of larger social groups, a successful target will often be humbled by the perpetrator who can’ recruit’ allies to join in on the bullying. This is a display of public shaming that serves to silence the victim’s pride in his or her accomplishments.

The victim learns to be’ quiet’ about accomplishments he or she worked hard for as a style to avoid being targeted. Smear campaigns, gossiping and rumor-mongering are common when a narcissist’ leads’ his or her harem to pull down the victim in any way they can .

The ongoing pattern of not feeling acknowledged or acknowledged within a social group can have a tremendous impact on the main victims as their accomplishments or positive traits are blatantly disregarded, ridiculed or mocked.

This is a form of exclusion and ostracism that can create considerable psychological injury and nervousnes about sharing one’s accomplishments or celebrating them, for anxiety of pain and punishment. This type of social rejection can be just as dangerous as physical trauma( Williams and Nida, 2011 ).

“When a person is ostracized, the brain’s dorsal anterior cingulate cortex, which registers physical pain, also feels this social injury.”- Dr. Kipling, Pain of Ostracism Can Be Deep, Long-Lasting

3. Contempt and condescension.

Remember that malignant narcissists, especially those of the grandiose type, are easily threatened by someone who could potentially dismantle their false sense of superiority. This includes their more successful family members, partners, peers, acquaintances and co-workers.A pathologically envious person feels that they cannot procure the level of success that you have achieved, so they will treat your accomplishments with contempt in order to convince themselves that you are inferior.

Being endlessly met with this tone of disdain and haughty stance, especially when you dare to display a healthy level of confidence, serves to induce you feel powerless, small and insufficient. It creates an atmosphere of dread and self-doubt where successful targets are deterred from achieving their dreams or taking pride in what they’ve achieved.

The ability to’ look down on you’ constructs malignant narcissists feel powerful and in control, something they struggle to feel when faced with a target more successful than they are. While others are exulting with you as you launch a financially lucrative career, sign the lease on your dream apartment or scheme your bridal, a pathologically envious person will be the one lamenting about how most matrimonies don’t work up and how expensive it must be to live in the city.

4. Minimization and misattribution.

The most conniving and covert pathologically envious people go out of their style to burst your bubble by not only minimise your success, but attributing it to something other than your true merits, hard work and talents. You may find that a pathologically envious person attributes your accomplishments to pure “luck” even while they attribute their own success to their own work ethic. Yet are often the ones who use their charisma and social connections to get ahead.

By constantly focusing on an outside influence that “must” have been the cause of your success, the “vulnerable narcissist” form( a narcissist on the lower end of the spectrum) feels better equipped to handle their own sense of inadequacy, while the malignant, grandiose narcissist feels reassured of his or her perceived superiority.

5. Perpetually moving the goal posts.

Narcissists don’t ever want their targets to feel’ enough.’ A victim’s confidence represents the narcissist’s loss of control- it entails the victim to have been able to move on from the narcissist without a second glance. That is why these toxic types guarantees to regardless of whichever region of your life you’re currently succeeding in, that they shift their standards, expectations and criteria for what’ success’ actually entails. That style, you always feel the need to seek their validation and approval.

You may have a stellar reputation at work, has become a supportive friend and spouse, be an all around astounding person, but the narcissistic abuser may then started to pick on what you lack, perceived flaws or fabricate insecurities about negative attributes that don’t exist. He or she focuses on these fabricated shortcomings so that you are never allowed to feel procure in yourself and proud of what you’ve managed to overcome.

As narcissism expert Dr. Durvasula( 2016) notes 😛 TAGEND

” I always call it the Beauty and the Beast piece of this because what did Beauty do? She just sort of danced around and loved the Beast and the working day he went from a raging animal to a prince. A lot of people have taken that fairytale and they have injected it into their lives saying if I love him enough, if I dance around enough, if I’m sweet enough, if I’m pretty enough, if I’m this enough, if I’m that enough, then I will please him and he will go from being a raging animal to a prince. It is never going to be enough and I think that’s the real contradiction in the narcissistic relationship.”

The Narcissist’s Pathological Envy Represents How Powerful You Are

It was not your fault that you were abused; the fact that you were targeted is actually an indication that you have something special about you that the narcissist noticed and want to get undermine in the first place.

Beware that while narcissists enjoy piggybacking off of the success of others, they also enjoy sabotaging those same people. This bears repeating: it is precisely because their targets represents the success they themselves have not been successful in or a success that threatens to take “members attention” off of them.

Rather than internalizing the projections of pathologically envious people, recognize these microaggressions and acts of sabotage for what they are: signs that you have something within you that is far greater than the power of their put-downs.

Dare to celebrate yourself and what you worked hard to achieve – you earned it and you have every right as any other human being to be proud of yourself in a healthy way. Protect yourself from these toxic types and define your borders firmly; do not let a pathologically envious person take residence in your psyche or sabotage your success.

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Macron tells Netanyahu that US recognition of Jerusalem is threat to peace

Call comes as Palestinian human stabs Israeli security guard following Donald Trumps announcement about Jerusalem

Emmanuel Macron, the French chairman, has warned US recognition of Jerusalem as the Israeli capital was a” threat to peace” as he hosted the country’s “ministers “, Benjamin Netanyahu, on his first foreign trip since Donald Trump provoked widespread censure with the decision.

The joint appearance by the two men, following talks in Paris, came as tear gas was used to disperse protesters outside the US embassy in Beirut and a Palestinian human stabbed an Israeli security guard at Jerusalem’s central bus station in the first assault in the city since Trump’s announcement.

Palestinian media identified the assailant as 24 -year-old Yasin Abu al-Qur’a from a village near Nablus in the northern West Bank, who reportedly posted on Facebook hours earlier mentioning Jerusalem. Police described as a terrorist attack.

Trump last week declared the US would recognise Jerusalem as the Israeli capital, violating the international consensus on one of the most sensitive issues in relations between Israel and the Palestinians – who wish the capital of a future Palestinian nation to be in the east of the city.

Macron said he had told Netanyahu that Trump’s statement on Jerusalem” is a threat to peace and we are against it” and suggested that an Israeli freeze on settlement house would be an important gesture, proving Israel was committed to peace.

In uncompromising remarks unlikely to calm the ongoing crisis, Netanyahu replied by saying that the sooner Palestinians recognised the reality that Jerusalem was Israel’s capital, the sooner there would be peace.

He also lashed out at the Turkish president, Recep Tayyip Erdogan, saying he would not” take lecturings” from someone who bombs Kurdish villages, supportings Iran and “terrorists” in Gaza.

Several rockets were fird from the Gaza Strip toward Israel on Thursday and Friday following Trump’s declaration, resulting Israel to respond with airstrikes that killed two people.

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Of all the issues at the heart of the enduring conflict between Israel and the Palestinians , none is as sensitive as the situation of women Jerusalem. The holy city has been at the centre of peace-making efforts for decades.

Seventy years ago, when the UN voted to partition Palestine into Jewish and Arab nations, Jerusalem was defined as a separate entity under international supervision. In the war of 1948 it was divided, like Berlin in the cold war, into western and eastern sectors under Israeli and Jordanian control respectively. Nineteen years later, in June 1967, Israel captured the eastern side, expanded the city’s borders and annexed it- an act that was never recognised internationally.

Israel routinely describes the city, with its Jewish, Muslim and Christian holy place, as its” united and eternal” capital. For their portion, the Palestinians say East Jerusalem must be the capital of a future independent Palestinian nation. The unequivocal international position, accepted by all previous US administrations, is that the city’s status must be addressed in peace negotiations.

Recognising Jerusalem as Israel’s capital sets the US out of step with the rest of the world, and legitimises Israeli settlement-building in the east- considered illegal under international law.

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Macron has been resulting European criticism of the US decision and rang Trump before his announcement to alert him of the likely damaging outcomes for the Palestinian peace process. Before Netanyahu’s visit, he and Erdogan spoke by telephone about a joint diplomatic approach to try to persuade the US to row back on Jerusalem.

He began his pre-prepared remarks alongside Netanyahu with a clear disapproval” of all forms of attacks in the last hours and days against Israel .”

Graphic footage of the incident in Jerusalem demonstrated the attacker calmly handing his coat to the security guard before abruptly plunging a large knife into the guard’s chest. Police spokesman Micky Rosenfeld said the guard sustained a serious meander to his upper body and the attacker was apprehended.

In Beirut, meanwhile, Lebanese security force broke up a protest outside the heavily guarded US embassy with teargas after demonstrators pelted them with stones.

Protesters, some of them waving Palestinian flags, lit flames in the street and threw objects at members of the security forces who had barricaded the main road to the embassy.

Addressing the protesters, the head of the Lebanese Communist party, Hanna Gharib, declared Washington” the enemy of Palestine” and said the embassy was ” a emblem of imperialist aggressivenes” that must be closed.

Nikki Haley, the US ambassador to the UN, defended Trump’s decision saying it reflected his appreciation for such facts on the ground and – without devoting details – that it would advance peace talks.

” You’ve got the parliament, the president, the cabinet of ministers, the supreme court, so why shouldn’t we have the embassy there ?” she told CBS.

” When you recognise the truth, when both parties recognise reality, peace comes. We are living in the reality that Jerusalem is the capital of Israel .”

She said US allies in the Middle East are the most worried about Iran’s growing influence in the region, where Washington was ” in lockstep” with them.

The US president’s recognition of Jerusalem as the Israeli capital has nevertheless infuriated the Arab world and upset western friends, who say it is a blow to peace efforts and dangers causing further unrest.

The Vatican on Sunday said Pope Francis was praying so that” leaders of nations” commit themselves to work to” forestalls a new spiraling of violence” over Jerusalem. Its statement reiterated the Vatican position on” the essential need for respecting the status quo “.

Most countries consider East Jerusalem, which Israel annexed after capturing it in 1967, to be occupied territory. They say the status of the city should be left to be decided at future Israeli-Palestinian talks.

Netanyahu is on Monday due in Brussels where he will fulfill the EU foreign policy chief, Frederica Mogherini, and hold a working breakfast with 27 EU foreign ministers. Before he left Israel for Europe he was critical of EU leaders, who have also condemned the building of Israeli settlements in West Bank.

” While I respect Europe, I am not prepared to accept a doubled criterion from it ,” Netanyahu said on Saturday evening.” I hear voices from there condemning President Trump’s historic statement, but I have not heard condemnations of the rockets fired at Israel or the terrible incitement against it. I am not prepared to accept this hypocrisy .”

Arab League foreign ministers met for hours on Saturday to denounce the US decision as illegitimate and unlawful, but appeared to have held back from taking any new measures.

The Arab League chief, Ahmed Abul Gheit, said Trump’s decision was ” against international law and raises questions over American efforts to support peace” between Palestine and Israel.

The shift in US policy undermined Arab confidence in the Trump administration and amounted to the legalisation of the Israeli occupation of Palestine, he added.

The pastors reiterated that such a move had no legal impact and was void, adding:” it deepens tension, kindles anger and threatens to plunge region into more violence and chaos .”

The ministers agreed to” demand that the United States rescind its decision on Jerusalem … and the calling on the international community to recognise the state of Palestine … with east Jerusalem as its capital ,” said the statement.

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German intel chief: Islamic radical numbers are growing

The head of Germany’s domestic intelligence agency says the number of Islamic revolutionaries is growing and becoming increasingly difficult to keep under surveillance as recruiting efforts move underground.

Hans-Georg Maassen said in comments released Sunday that the number of adherents of Salafist ideology rose to 10,800 from 9,700 a year ago. Salafists believe in a fundamentalist interpretation of Islam, though are not inevitably violent.

He says they’ve reduced street recruiting and radicalization in mosques and larger groups in favor of “small conspiratorial circles, primarily on the internet.” Maassen says “this is a particular challenge” for his office.

He says Islamic radicals from Chechnya and the North Caucasus region, of whom there are several hundred, are another concern, because they’re well networked, prone to violence and often have combat experience.

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Her history was erased from her classes. Now she’s making sure it won’t happen again.

Family History Day is an astonishing opportunity for kids to discuss their heritage with their classmates. Most of the time.

Michelle Morales still chokes up when she believes of how heartbroken she felt when she came to school eager to teach her class about her Puerto Rican ties to Taino Native Americans and was met with opponent. Her teacher insisted that her ties to indigenous culture were not real.

“That sticks with me, ” Morales says, “because in that moment, a history that I should have been proud of was erased.”

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