John McCain’s emotional, career-encompassing speech will live on for generations to come.

Months after being diagnosed with brain cancer, John McCain delivered one of the best speeches of his long political career.

The 81 -year-old Arizona senator was this year’s recipient of the Constitution Center’s Liberty Medal, an award given annually to an individual who exemplifies “courage and conviction” and strives “to secure the boons of autonomy to people around the globe.” Recent past recipients include Rep. John Lewis, the Dalai Lama, Malala Yousafzai, and former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton.

After being introduced by former Vice President Joe Biden, McCain gave a speech that really needs to be heard by people across the political spectrum.

McCain called on lawmakers to find common ground and reject the hyper-partisanship that’s infected Washington in recent years.

While he and Biden didn’t always agree on policy during their hour as colleagues in the U.S. Senate, McCain noted, they never doubted that the other had the best interests of the country in intellect. Politics, McCain indicates, used to be more than merely a game of power.

“We believed in the institution “were in” privileged to be used in, ” McCain said of his working relationship with the former VP. “We believed in our reciprocal responsibility to assists construct the place run and to cooperate in finding solutions to our country’s problems. We believed in our country and in our country’s indispensability to international peace and stability and to the progress of humanity. And through it all, whether we argued or concurred, Joe was good company.”

The most headline-grabbing portion of McCain’s speech was a call to repudiate dread and embrace the obligations the U.S. has made to the international community.

Nationalism and “America First” stances didn’t induce America great; our commitment to the outside world did. It’s at this point in his speech where the war hero begins to get a bit choked up, reflecting on the country as it is and as it should be.

He asked those around him to repudiate ” half-baked, spurious nationalism cooked up by people who would rather find scapegoats than solve problems , ” calling that attitude and those policies unpatriotic .

The common thread between those two points — discovering common ground with those we disagree with and rejecting isolationism — is empathy.

To be sure, McCain’s postures haven’t always reflected an empathetic worldview. With hawkish postures on foreign policy and his past pushings to gut the Affordable Care Act, he’s surely an imperfect messenger of an important lesson. In this speech, though, as he reflected on some of the brightest moments in his career, it is the basic bond of human empathy as a motivating factor that stands out the most.

“I’ve find Americans construct sacrifices for our country and her causes and for people who were strangers to them but for our common humanity, sacrifices that were much harder than the service asked of me, ” he said, his voice hesitating ever so somewhat, tinged with feeling. “And I’ve ensure the good they have done, the lives they freed from tyranny and injustice, the hope they fostered, the dreams they made achievable.”

Watch John McCain deliver his powerful, thoughtful retrospective on life as a public servant below.

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Reese Witherspoon revealed she was sexually assaulted at 16, in a powerful speech.

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Reese Witherspoon’s three decades in Hollywood have been peppered with prestigious awardings, a long listing of blockbuster success — and, she shared lately, several incidents of sexual assault at the hands of powerful men.

The -Alister was on stage at ELLE’s Women in Hollywood event on Oct. 16, introducing her “Big Little Lies” co-star Laura Dern, when she revealed she’s been sexually harassed numerous periods throughout her career. One instance, she said, occurred when she was just 16 years old .

Inspired by the dozens of women who’ve come forward in recent days alleging shamed movie mogul Harvey Weinstein harassed, assaulted, or raped them, Witherspoon joined the chorus of those demanding more needs to be done.

“I didn’t sleep at all last night, ” Witherspoon began, reflecting on a difficult week of news for many survivors of sexual assault.

“I have my own experiences that have come back to me very vividly, and I detected it really hard to sleep, hard to think, hard to communicate, ” Witherspoon told the crowd. “A lot of the feelings I’ve been having about anxiety, about being honest, the remorse for not speaking up earlier or taking action. True disgust at the director who assaulted me when I was 16 years old and fury that I felt at the agents and the producers who built me feel that silence was a condition of my employment.”

Reese Witherspoon and her daughter Ava Phillipe at the ELLE Women in Hollywood event. Photo by Neilson Barnard/ Getty Images for ELLE.

Witherspoon continued:

“I wish I could tell you that that was an isolated incident in my career, but sadly, it wasn’t. I’ve had multiple experiences of harassment and sexual assault, and I don’t speak about them very often, but after hearing all the stories these past few days and hearing these brave females speak up tonight, the things that we’re kind of told to sweep under the carpet and not talk about, it’s stimulated me want to speak up and speak up aloud because I felt less alone this week than I’ve ever felt in my entire career.”

Witherspoon instructed the room of Hollywood influencers on how to advance the cause in their own lines of work.

Namely, she said, they need to do whatever they can to help put more women in positions of power.

She continued( emphasis added ):

“There’s a lot of people here who negotiate quite often with different companies and heads of companies, and I suppose maybe during your next negotiation, this is a really prudent time to ask important questions like, who are your top female executives? Do those women have green-light power? How many girls are on the board of your company? How many girls are in a key stance of decision-making at your company? Asking questions like that, I observed, it seems so obvious, but people don’t ask those questions.”

Witherspoon isn’t just talking the talk either. She’s been changing the game for women in Hollywood for years.

In 2012, Witherspoon launched Pacific Standard, a production company focused on making more women-led entertainment projects. It’s created blockbusters like “Wild” and “Gone Girl, ” as well as the critically acclaimed miniseries “Big Little Lies, ” in which Witherspoon starred alongside Dern, Nicole Kidman, and Shailene Woodley. The series was widely praised for drawing attention to issues surrounding domestic abuse and sexual violence.

The cast of HBO’s “Big Little Lies.” Photo by Frederick M. Brown/ Getty Images.

After the 2016 general elections, Witherspoon also decided to launch Hello Sunshine — an online platform aimed at allowing girls from across the country to share their own narratives and be heard.

But so much more is needed.

We urgently need more people like Witherspoon running behind the scenes in Hollywood.

A study released in January saw females made up merely 7% of director roles across the industry’s top 250 cinemas in 2016 — down 2% from the year before. If filmmaking wants to be a more all-inclusive and less abusive industry for women , men need to become allies in action , advocating for more females to take up space behind closed doors, where deals are made and movies are green-lit.

But Witherspoon — who’s “really, truly encouraged that there will be a new normal” after the Weinstein allegations went public — believes change is on the horizon.

“For the young women sitting in this room, life is going to be different for you because we have you, we have your back, ” Witherspoon said. “And that attains me feel better because, gosh, it’s about time.”

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Cameron Russell asked models about sexual harassment. Here are 3 must-read responses.

Cameron Russell at the COP 21 United Nations conference on climate change in 2015. Photo by Kenzo Tribouillard/ AFP/ Getty Images.

It’s been more than five years since model and activist Cameron Russell filmed her breakthrough TED Talk, “Looks aren’t everything. Believe me, I’m a model.”

Russell is a model who has consistently used her platform to advocate for topics she’s passionate about, such as gender, race, and climate change. She’s also one of the founders of Model Mafia, an ever-growing network of models fighting for more equitable and less exploitative working conditions.

In the wake of the ongoing assault and harassment scandal surrounding Harvey Weinstein, and the ever-present issue of sexual harassment in the workforce — which, according to a 2015 survey, 1 in 3 women in the U.S . workforce have experienced — Russell decided to once again use her following and position to call attention to an important, if unpleasant, topic.

Russell launched the #MyJobShouldNotIncludeAbuse campaign on social media, asking for tales about sexual harassment in the modeling world. The responses were eye-opening.

Similar to how actress Alyssa Milano’s viral “Me Too” tweet and the internet’s powerful response set a spotlight on just how widespread assault and harassment are, Russell’s campaign put the focus on how rampant this is within the world of modeling, specifically. Models sent Russell their all-too-common horror narratives, and she shared them on her Instagram profile.

Stories of young women, some of whom were underage, being coerced into situations beyond their convenience zones filled the page.

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Stories of photographers asking inappropriate the issue of the models’ sex lives popped up multiple times.

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There were even some stories that demonstrated how models were made to fear for their physical safety while at work.

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How and why does this happen? For one, harassment is oftens normalized in the workspace, letting predators to continue the behaviors without penalty.

A personal story from Russell shows how that happens. On Instagram, Russell explains the time “shes seen” the definition of sexual harassment on a labor law poster, saying that it appeared “like[ her] job description.”( emphasis added .)

“When I got home and looked up the definition online, it was so place on it felt like someone who knew us … and of course they did. Sexual harassment is unacceptably cliche. I sat down to try to make a list of my own experiences. Non consensual kiss, spanks, gropes, and pinches. Failing to provide adequate changing space, dishonor in response to requests for adequate changing space. Bullying by editors, photographers, stylists, and clients to go topless or nude. Publishing nudity after contractually concurring not to. Non consensual massage. Inappropriate emails, text messages, and telephone call. Pressure while underage to devour alcohol. Being directed to ‘pretend like I’m your boyfriend.’ Being forced to sleep at the photographer’s home rather than provided a hotel. Having my job threatened if I don’t participate . Being called difficult, feminist, virgin, diva when speaking up or saying no. Being unclear about bounds because so many bounds have been traversed. I lose count. And this is only what’s easy to share, what’s as platitude as 9am call times, fittings, and lunch.”

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No job should include abuse. No matter the industry. And it’s past time to start taking claims of workplace harassment seriously.

Highlighting acts of normalized harassment, like those shared by Russell, is a great start. It helps us all understand the devastating effects of these actions that go excused on a much-too-regular basis.

Setting firm bounds and letting other people who’ve been harassed or assaulted understand that they’re not alone is a step toward stopping it in the future. It’s a step toward a culture that they are able to no longer tolerate these actions.

For more narratives from the #MyJobShouldNotIncludeAbuse campaign, visit Russell’s Instagram page or check out the hashtag immediately on Twitter and Instagram .

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The wildly simple reason Trump joking about Pence’s anti-LGBTQ views is not OK.

In the Oct. 23 issue of The New Yorker, it was reported that President Donald Trump likes to gag about Vice President Mike Pence’s long history of anti-LGBTQ opinions.

In Jane Mayer’s exquisite tale “The Danger of President Pence, ” a source shared that Trump likes to remind Pence who’s in charge and frequently mocks his commitment to religion( Pence is an evangelical Christian ). Specifically, he jokes about Pence’s need to limit the rights of women and LGBTQ people. Here’s the excerpt from Mayer’s tale( emphasis mine ):

“Two sources also remembered Trump needling Pence about his views on abortion and homosexuality. During a meeting with a legal scholar, Trump belittled Pence’s determination to overturn Roe v. Wade. The legal scholar had said that, if the Supreme Court did so, many states would likely legalize abortion on their own. ‘You watch? ‘ Trump asked Pence. ‘You’ve wasted all this time and energy on it, and it’s not going to end abortion anyway.’ When the conversation turned to lesbian rights, Trump motioned toward Pence and joked, ‘Don’t ask that guy — he wants to hang them all! ‘

There’s nothing incorrect with Pence being a man of faith. But when he conceals behind it and uses it as justification for a series of policies and positions that threatened the livelihoods of many, many Americans, that’s dangerous. Furthermore, joking about someone hanging lesbian people wouldn’t be funny at a bus stop or in a locker room. To know Trump thought it would be appropriate to say in a meeting is the very definition of deplorable.

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To Trump, it seems that Pence’s backward, dangerous opinions on women’s health and LGBTQ people are not backwards and dangerous, they’re punchlines.

But we are not punchlines.

We are human beings with dreams, aims, and households like everyone else. Yet, among two of the most powerful humen in the country, one guesses gay couples cause “societal collapse” and the other apparently thinks that’s funny.

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We’re not giggling.

We’re not here for your amusement. We’re not to be used as some sort of perverse bargaining chip.

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People around the world, and here at home, are succumbing because of their gender or sexuality.

Did President Trump laugh when parents in Chechnya were told to murder their lesbian children before the government did? Did he slap the table and get happy tears in his eyes when he learned at least 23 transgender people have been murdered in 2017?

Did Vice President Pence heard the news of 7 people in Egypt being arrested and jailed for raising a pride flag at a concert and think, “Serves them right”?

People gather at a vigil for slain transgender girl Islan Nettles in New York in 2013. Photo by Mario Tama/ Getty Images.

When the administration turns its back on transgender kids and makes it harder for victims of sexual assault to come forward, that’s not humorous. That’s not holy. It’s cruel and it’s unforgivable.

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No, we’re not giggling. We are mobilizing.

We are speaking out. We are fighting for the the same rights and considerations we deserve.

Any person or party who views our health, our bodies, our lives as something to chuckle about or something to be “prayed away” or changed is not a person or party who deserves our support.

We’ll watch who’s giggling next November.

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Theres a surprising science behind making friends, and this psychologist is teaching it.

Imagine if someone jumped into your conversation at a party without an introduction, interrupting you mid-sentence.

That might strike you as odd or rude. But when we dedicate person the simple advice to “just go up and introduce yourself, ” we’re skipping many of the nonverbal steps important to making a good impression.

For most, connecting with other people relies on intuition. However , social interactions of all sorts — from just saying “hello” to a new acquaintance to interviewing for a new job — can be challenging. For people with autism, it can be even more difficult to know how to strike up that first conversation .

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That’s why UCLA psychologist Dr. Elizabeth Laugeson induced it her mission to help.

Through her work at the Semel Institute and her work with Fred Frankel in 2005, she generated a programme designed that helps young adults with social challenges, such as those on the autism spectrum, make and keep friends by breaking down social interactions into easy-to-follow steps.

This program, “ve called the” Program for the Education and Enrichment of Relational Skills( PEERS ), teaches them how to listen, interact, and communicate with others.

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“We want to teach to the style that[ people with autism] think. What works? Concrete rules and steps, ” Laugeson explains.

Most people pick up on social cues, like body language and facial expressions, quite naturally. But many people with autism struggle with abstract thinking. Concrete communication works best for many, in agreement with the Indiana Research Center for Autism.

That’s why, Laugeson explains, the first step is actually about learning to listen before leap in.

“The first step is that you’d watch the conversation and kind of listen to the conversation, ” she explains.

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Some of us might use a prop, like a cellphone, to looking confused while listening to a dialogue we’re thinking about joining. We’ll spend this time eavesdropping for a common interest.

Next, we might move closer to the conversation, waiting for a pause to jump in with something on topic. Of course, this process involves be seen whether the person or persons or group is interested in talking to us.

Introductions usually don’t come until mid-conversation, Laugeson says . This is why “just go up and say hello” may not the best advice, especially for people who struggle to pick up on subtle cues.

There are social subtleties that go beyond first interactions, too, and the curriculum at PEERS addresses many of them.

UCLA PEERS also teaches students how to deal with conflict and bullying, for example.

Individuals with autism are especially vulnerable to bully. The Interactive Autism Network found in a study that 63% of children ages 6 to 15 with autism spectrum disorder have experienced bullying.

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This is another area where neurotypical people may give ineffective advice. People usually indicate dealing with taunting in one of three styles: ignore the bully, walk away, or tell an adult. But these strategies don’t always work, Laugeson says.

“These answers often make it worse for the main victims and not better, ” she explains.

During a bully situation, a neurotypical person will usually react with a short, dismissive comeback. A casual “whatever” or “Is that supposed to be funny? ” can construct the aggressor’s comments seem bearing .

This is a great way to show the ability to stand up for one’s ego while diffusing the situation and avoiding more confrontation. Laugeson teaches this tactic in PEERS to her students, helping them deal with pestering in a way others might naturally react.

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These are just a few routes that PEERS helps students who struggle socially.

Since 2005, PEERS has expanded from UCLA to locatings across the country and throughout the world.

The PEERS method can also help preschoolers, teens, and young adults with ADHD, anxiety, depression, and other socio-emotional problems too .

And it’s more accessible than ever, thanks to her book, “The Science of Making Friends, “ and an app called FriendMaker, which acts as a virtual coach for social the status and includes role-playing exercisings for making and maintaining friends.

Friendship is a critical part of mental health, though it’s easy to take this for granted.

This is why programs like UCLA PEERS are so important, particularly for individuals who can’t easily navigate social situations .

According to the Mayo Clinic, friendships can boost happiness, foster a healthy lifestyle, reduce stress, improve self-confidence, help in coping with trauma, and much more.

Laugeson teaching social skills at a PEERS group. Image from UCLA PEERS via AP.

Laugeson shared a narrative of a student who had been in and out of psychiatric units with a long history of mental health issues. The young man had tried many drugs by the time he joined PEERS.

“This was a kid who had been highly medicated over the years. He came to me at graduation and he told me friendship was the best medicine for him, ” Laugeson recounted. “It utterly can change a life to have a friend.”

PEERS has helped numerous students like him , not only in building friends, but in attending college, get chores, and even embarking on romantic relationships .

For the past 12 years, the skills taught at PEERS have helped improve the lives of thousands of people all over the world. For a skill set that’s so rarely taught, it’s transformative to construct the art of friendship a little more accessible for those who need it.

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Why don’t women come forward after sexual assault? This comment nailed it.

“Why didn’t she say anything sooner? “

It’s the issue that frustrates sexual assault prevention advocates and discredits the victims who bravely come forward after they’ve been targeted.

Stars Angelina Jolie and Gwyneth Paltrow — who both disclosed to The New York Times they’d been sexually harassed by movie mogul Harvey Weinstein years ago — are among the latest women now having to trudge through a predictable wave of victim-blaming following their disclosures.

Gwyneth Paltrow( left) and Angelina Jolie. Photos by Jason Kempin/ Getty Images and Dia Dipasupil/ Getty Images.

Paltrow and Jolie’s descriptions of abuse follow an explosive report in the Times on Oct. 5, 2017, that chronicled decades of alleged sexual harassment at the hands of Weinstein — a man with seemingly boundless sway and power in the filmmaking world.

Sadly, Paltrow and Jolie were met with various forms of the question .Why didn’t the women of Hollywood stop him ?” sprouted up immediately in corners of the internet.

One viral comment on the Times article, however, nailed why questioning a victim’s actions after surviving sexual harassment or assault does so much damage.

“It is disheartening to see so many comments already blaming women for not ‘speaking up, ‘” the reader, identified as “K” from Brooklyn, began.

“Please count yourself lucky that you’ve never had your career on the line based on whether or not you sleep with your boss, ” they continued. “It has nothing to do with fame and riches; this happens to women constructing minimum wage in retail as well as women who fought through it to become CEOs.”

“K” continued, devoting context as to why it’s often very difficult and complicated for survivors to speak up after being abused( emphasis added ):

“The psychology behind this kind of thing is not that complex, so please spare a moment to deem: Not only are these women made to feel humiliated and embarrassed, but in some cases if they had come forward, they not only would never run again, they also would be seen as whiners and ‘too sensitive.’ Both Jolie and Paltrow fended him off. Imagine if they made a big stink about it. They would have been ripped apart in the media! ‘Oh for goodness’ sake, a dirty old man came on to you. You rejected him and moved on, why the fuss? ‘ But, of course , now we must insist on blaming them for ‘perpetuating’ Weinstein’s behavior. Please.”

As “K” described, victims often bide silent because they’re vulnerable to the power abusers have over the situation; victims could lose their job or find their credibility attacked, for instance. These kinds of power dynamics — whether it be in Hollywood or not — play a big role in why victims stay silent .

Harvey Weinstein. Photo by Alexander Koerner/ Getty Images.

For victims of sexual harassment, the threat to their subsistence does not end after a single encounter with an abuser. If a young, less accomplished Paltrow had spoken out against a figure like Weinstein, would he have irreversibly tarnished her reputation? Would he have planted unforgiving tales about her in the media? Would she have ever worked again? These are the kinds of threats victims weigh before speaking out. A predator’s hold on a victim’s career or reputation generates a culture of silence.

The commenter also used Brad Pitt’s involvement in the story to note a sexist doubled standard in how we ensure victims of sexual assault.

If we’re blaming Paltrow and Jolie for not speaking up sooner, why aren’t we blaming Brad Pitt as well?

Pitt, who’d been romantically involved with both Paltrow and Jolie at different points in his career, reportedly knew about Weinstein’s predatory behavior, according to The Daily Beast, yet he worked with Weinstein on two cinemas following the disturbing encounters. The fact that he’s largely been left out of the discussion says a lot about how we view victims of sexual assault, particularly when they’re females .

“K” went on to say that the attitudes of blaming women for their own persecution are astounding: “Note that the comments have not centered around Brad Pitt’s not saying anything, though he knew about it with not one but TWO romantic partners…It is not the women’s undertaking to monitor men’s behavior.”

Weintein( left) and Pitt( right) at the premiere of “Inglourious Basterds” in 2009. Photo by Kevin Winter/ Getty Images.

The assertions made by “K, ” whose remark drew over 3,000 likes and a long thread of supportive replies, aren’t only immersed in sentiment; advocates argue sexual harassment is rarely only about sex — asserting power play an instrumental role .

“Most often, survivors of sexual harassment, exploitation and violence lag making an official report of what really happened out of anxiety of how others will respond, ” Kristen Houser, chief public affairs policeman at the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, explained to HuffPost in March 2017. “From retaliation by the perpetrator to gossip, dismissive responses and outright victim blaming by colleagues, friends and family.”

We need to stop asking “Why didn’t she say anything? ” and instead wonder “Why aren’t we doing more to support survivors? “

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A new study gives awesome insight into how to break bad news.

Imagine you’re getting ready to drop some bad news on someone. Say, breaking off a months-long relationship.

“I’m not sure how to say this, ” you start. “This has been really great. Dating you has been a lot of fun. You’re really wonderful. And–” You roll out a string of cliches and compliments, dreading and delaying the part that comes next, when you eventually say “It’s over.”

You think you’re being nice. Protecting their feelings. You don’t want to be coldhearted, right?

Science, however, says there might be a better way.

A new study finds that, in most cases, a much smaller “buffer” before the bad news is actually preferable. According to the people who matter most.

Alan Manning, a professor of linguistics at Brigham Young University, and Nicole Amare, his research partner, were interested in what he calls the “information design” of devoting bad news. Quite literally, how much stuff should you say or write before simply getting on with it?

The procedure was simple: 145 volunteers were proven two similar but differently worded versions of the same message, side by side, and asked to choose which they found the least objectionable.( Stuff in the vein of, “Your car is being recalled” all the way to “Let’s break up” or “You’re fired.”)

Manning says, in most cases, there was a clear preference for the more concise message.

Participants also largely responded that clarity and directness were more important than how considerate the message was.

The findings contradict a lot of the previous research, Manning says, which stressed buffers and positivity and silver linings. He says when you just talk to people, you get a different story: “When you ask people if they want the bad news straight-up, they almost always say yes.”

If bad-news recipients only want it straight, why do we tend to draw it out?

Manning says it’s because we’re looking out for ourselves . It’s easier and makes us feel better to beat around the bush a little bit.

Turns out, the whole thing is a practical exercising in empathy.

“One of the great challenges of growing up and being a fully functioning adult is being fully aware of other people’s needs around you and not only your own, ” he says.

He hopes the study will help people become better deliverers of bad news, and, ultimately, take better care of each other. He exhorts us to suppose critically about how sensitive the message we’re delivering is and to respond appropriately. Don’t be callous, he says, and blurt out “I’m breaking up with you, ” before even saying “Hi.” But a smaller buffer is almost always appreciated by the recipient.

It’s hard to break old habits. It’s even harder to be direct. But getting and dedicating bad news is part of our everyday lives. It’ll be worth the effort to do it right.

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A mom took this viral photo of her son with autism and the barber who went the extra mile.

A lot of children hate getting their hair cut. If the boredom doesn’t cause them to wriggle out of their seats, then the clippers are too loud, or they just don’t like the style it feels.

For children on the autism spectrum — about 1 in every 45 kids — those problems are greatly intensified.

6-year-old Wyatt from Quebec, for example, deals with both hyper- and hyposensitivity. Having his hair touched coupled with the noise from the hair cutting equipment causes him major anxiety.

Wyatt’s challenges have been a struggle even for experienced stylists to manage in the past, as his mom, Fauve Lafreniere, told WDRB.

Everything changed when Wyatt’s mom procured a barber willing to go the extra mile for her son.

And now that barber is an internet hero.

Jacob with a young client in his store. Photo via Franz Jacob, used with permission.

Franz Jacob at Authentischen Barbier in Quebec has been cutting Wyatt’s hair for two years now and has learned a lot about how to construct the process as comfy for his young client as possible.

Jacob locks the front doorway of the salon to keep people from walking in during the cut. He also keeps the store as quiet as possible and is willing to keep at it for however long it takes to finish — sometimes hours.

Recently, a photo of Jacob lying on the floor next to Wyatt while finishing a trim went viral, stealing the hearts of millions across the web .

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Kerry Magro, an autism proponent, gives out a few tips-off to barbers who want to accommodate children with autism.

Things like: offer up a “game plan” of exactly what’s going to happen and use a treat or prize at the end as a reward.( Calming Clippers also generated a directory that can be a good starting point to find autism-friendly barbers in your region .)

But Jacob says he never had any specialized training or even much experience in dealing with kids who have autism. “I only figured it out, ” by watching Wyatt closely, he says in a message.

Not many people would be willing to lay on the floor to finish a few-dollar haircut. But a little bit of extra caring goes a long way.

Little gestures like Jacob’s can build the world a lot more welcoming for people of all ages with autism.

But it’s not just barber shops and salons. Some typically loud, chaotic Chuck E. Cheese locations are now offering Sensory Sensitive Sundays, hours or designated hours where the music and illuminations come down for a calmer experience to help reduce sensory overload. Kid-mecca Toys R Us stores in the U.K. have incorporated a similar experience, with schemes of it being implemented in the U.S. soon. Some movie theaters use the approach( sound low, illuminations somewhat up) to accommodate not only young children, but teens and adults too.

As for Jacob, he says now that term is spreading, other mothers are bring back kids like Wyatt to his shop for haircuts, driving hours simply to do so, and he’s even started dedicating trims to late-stage cancer patients. “I take great pride in doing all this for my community, ” he says.

It’s awesome to ensure retailers big and small espousing what constructs some of their clients unique and stepping up to the plate to accommodate those differences.

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A Dutch comedy show mocked America’s gun ‘addiction.’ They left out a crucial point.

Americans are helplessly, urgently “addicted” to guns. Or so a new Dutch comedy reveal has suggested.

“Sunday with Lubach, ” a news irony series hosted by comedian Arjen Lubach, panned Americans in a recent sketch that encouraged Europeans to be more sympathetic to our “Nonsensical Rifle Addiction, ” or NRA .

“NRA is a constitutional ailment caused by a dysfunction of the pre-frontal second amendment in the nonsensical cortex, causing patients to shoot people, ” the ironically somber narrator jabs to chuckle.

“NRA is highly contagious, ” the video continues. “Parents often pass it on to their children. This happens automatically or semi-automatically.”

Sure, the sketch is clever and deserving of a few not-funny-haha-but-funny-sad giggles as it drives a serious phase home, in the wake of yet another mass shooting.

But is its basic premise — Americans’ fanaticism over firearms — a fair evaluation?

America’s gun problems don’t to be derived from an “addiction.” They stem from a breakdown of democracy.

Yes, Americans, as a whole, own a lot of guns. Like, there are more guns in the U.S. than there are people. But parse through the big picture data, and the numbers may surprise you. Just 3% of Americans own 50% — half ! — of all the country’s handguns . And the vast majority of Americans — a whopping 78% — don’t own any at all. In fact, nationally, handgun ownership has been on a slow and steady deterioration since the early 1990 s.

“Addiction”? Not so much.

Most Americans, including gun owneds, overwhelmingly subsistence common sense handgun regulations — statutes that have failed time and time again to pass through a GOP-controlled House and Senate. It’s not that Congressional Republicans aren’t listening to their constituents, per se; they’re merely more concerned with fundraising their re-election bids. During the 2016 campaigns, for example, the actual NRA( the National Rifle Association , not to be confused with Nonsensical Rifle Addiction) poured tens of millions of dollars into political races around the country, including over $ 30 million toward then-candidate Donald Trump.

America doesn’t have an “addiction” problem when it comes to firearms — it’s got a “democracy” one.

Contact your representatives to demand common sense firearm statutes .

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This anti-bullying PSA acts out online comments in real life. It’s an uncomfortable watch.

Bullying is just as wrong when it happens online as it is in person. So why does one seem to be so much more acceptable than the other?

A new anti-bullying campaign and PSA called “In Real Life, ” spearheaded by Monica Lewinsky, takes actual insults people have said online and brings them into the physical world. While actors portray the bullies and their victims in the video, the reactions of unsuspecting spectators are genuine.

A collection of actual insults people posted online that were acted out in person as part of the In Real Life PSA. Screenshot from In Real Life/ YouTube.

The PSA opens with a pleasant scene that promptly turns jarring. Two men are sitting together in a coffee shop, when a stranger walks up to their table. “Gay people are sick, and you should just kill yourselves! ” he tells them.

This kind of interaction is not something you see that often in the real world( though it does happen ). On the internet, however, these sorts of commentary from a stranger isn’t just normal , it’s actually kind of tame.

Later in the video, a woman gets called at for being a “fat bitch” and a Muslim woman gets called a “terrorist.” In all of the scenarios, spectators — who were not involved in the social experiment — look on with horror.

Screenshot from In Real Life/ YouTube.

A number of studies demonstrate why people who wouldn’t bully someone to their face feel emboldened to do it online.

Anonymity, the ability to say or do whatever you want with little or no outcome for your actions, plays a role, but it’s far away from the only reason people engage in cyberbullying. The performative nature of online harassment also encourages others to pile on the target, whether they have a stake in the conversation or not. Mob mentality dictates that the more people go in on the target, the less any single person might feel responsible for negative outcomes. More than anything else, though, the barrier of the internet between bully and victim makes an empathy gap.

On the internet, regular people — your neighbors, coworkers, friends, acquaintances, and even family members — are all susceptible to become bullies, building it that much more important to think critically about the effects of our actions and behaviours online.

Screenshot from In Real Life/ YouTube.

Online harassment is so much more than being “just the way the internet is.”

“One thing people don’t inevitably realize about being threatened or dog-piled online is how much it can undermine your real-world sense of safety, ” author Sady Doyle explains in a Twitter direct message. Doyle has experienced intensifying bullying and harassment online for years, especially during the 2016 election season, in response to her writing on Hillary Clinton’s campaign.

Threats of physical violence and stalking across online platforms became normal to Doyle. Once an influential Twitter user took aim at her, to win that account’s approving, their adherents would engage in a game of one-upmanship harassment. Doyle began to worry more and more about how it would objective. Scheduled volume reads brought on a new sort of anxiety, as she feared that any of her online tormentors would be able to easily confront her in person. Thankfully, it never happened.

“I think that lost sense of safety is really what potential impacts is, ” she writes. “There’s mental health stuff, obviously — anyone with a tendency to depression, which I have, will internalize certain mean comments and play them back in a low moment — but it’s largely the realization that there are people out there that want to hurt you, or your loved ones, and that you can’t necessarily recognise those people on sight, that is so damaging.”

People shouldn’t have to live in fear, and that’s why campaigns like “In Real Life” are so important.

“It’s a stark and shocking mirror to people to rethink how we behave online versus the ways that we would behave in person, ” Lewinsky told People publication about the project.

Saying that while “there are probably hundreds of thousands, if not millions” of insults that have been written about her online and in publish, personal confrontations were much , much less common. “When you are with someone, when you find person face to face, you are reminded of their humanity.”

Lewinsky’s powerful 2015 TED Talk on “The Price of Shame” helped establish her as a major voice in anti-bullying activism. Photo by Adrian Sanchez-Gonzalez/ AFP/ Getty Images.

Unlike Doyle, “youre supposed to” don’t have to worry about online harassers presenting up at scheduled appearances, and unlike Lewinsky, “youre supposed to” aren’t an internationally known political lightning rod of the late ‘9 0s. Even so, the lessons contained in this video — not to say things online that you wouldn’t say to someone’s face, to remember that real people are on the receiving end of every online remark, and more — are applicable to all of us. Online bullying isn’t the exact same thing as the physical playground-style bullying we’ve heard about all of our lives, but its effects on the target’s sense of well-being is every bit as real.

Whether you’ve been the bully, the bullied, or just a spectator, there are lessons we can learn from this powerful PSA, which you can watch below.

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